A Lesson from Michael Singer’s “The Untethered Soul”
If you haven’t yet explored the profound wisdom of Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul, I strongly recommend you get your hands on a copy. Singer’s insights can open doors to letting go of emotional burdens, bringing a sense of personal freedom and inner peace you may not have thought possible. One of the most powerful chapters in the book is Chapter 9: Removing Your Inner Thorn, which highlights the art of welcoming life’s challenges as opportunities for growth.
In Singer’s view, life’s obstacles—often manifested as emotions like anger,, fear, and envy—can be seen as your inner thorns.. Many of us, myself included, tend to hold onto these struggles, resisting letting go without even realizing that we have a choice. Instead of releasing them, we suppress, deny, or ignore them. It’s like playing a never-ending game of “whack-a-mole”—as soon as we push one problem down, another pops up. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.
However, my perspective on life changed dramatically when I got sober in 2000. It was as if a veil had been lifted, and I suddenly realized that I had choices—real choices. I could continue protecting my problems, or I could let go of them. I chose the latter. By letting go of what no longer served me, I felt free. My metaphorical chains were broken. This solution is simple in theory but challenging in practice. Each issue I released left claw marks all over my psyche, making it clear how deeply I had held onto them.
Now, let me share a miraculous moment in my life that illustrates the true power of letting go.
An Unexpected Lesson in Letting Go
In 2013, the Friday before Labor Day, I had an MRI on my knee to determine if I had a meniscus tear. The results were supposed to be available within 48 hours, but because of the holiday weekend, I wouldn’t receive them until the following Tuesday. By Wednesday, having heard nothing from the doctor’s office, I called to inquire. Silence. The same thing happened on Thursday. By Friday, frustration had set in, and I told the receptionist that I wouldn’t hang up until I spoke to someone.
Finally, the physician assistant (PA) took the call and was surprised—I was supposed to have been contacted already. She quickly located my MRI, confirmed the tear, and recommended surgery. With my insurance set to renew on October 1st, I asked if the procedure could be scheduled sooner. She found an earlier appointment at a different location. “Great, I’ll take it,” I replied, starting to let go of my earlier irritation with the situation.
And here’s where the magic of letting go truly unfolded.
Releasing Frustration and Embracing the Moment
On the morning of my appointment, I arrived at the new location ten minutes early and checked in. As I sat in the waiting room, I started reading Chapter 9: Removing Your Inner Thorn from The Untethered Soul.
Twenty minutes later, the receptionist called me to the desk and said, “What are you doing here, Debbie? Your appointment isn’t until the end of the month.”
Without reacting emotionally, I calmly explained what I had been told. Her response? “Oh, we’ll have to squeeze you in somewhere.”
For the first time, I realized I wasn’t struggling with an inner thorn. I hadn’t even allowed it to take root in the first place. That, my friends, is the miracle of letting go.
The Power of Letting Go
Letting go isn’t about ignoring problems or suppressing emotions—it’s about releasing the resistance that keeps us stuck. When we stop holding on so tightly, life unfolds naturally.
In the spirit of The Untethered Soul, I leave you with this simple yet profound message:
👉 The power to let go and find inner peace is within your reach. 👉 It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.
Are you ready to experience the miracle of letting go?
If you struggle to release what’s holding you back, take the next step by scheduling your complimentary Discovery Session. Together, we’ll create your Personal Roadmap to Confidence and Peace of Mind.
The Art of Letting Go: Embracing the Beauty of Mastery
Letting go might seem counterintuitive in a world that constantly encourages us to accumulate, control, and conquer. We are often taught that mastery is gaining, achieving, and holding on to what we have with an iron grip. But what if I told you that the most beautiful form of mastery is, in fact, the art of letting go?
“The most beautiful form of mastery is the art of letting go.”
These words have echoed in my mind for quite some time now, and the profound wisdom they hold has changed the way I perceive success and fulfillment. Let’s delve into the timeless beauty of mastering the art of letting go.
Breaking Free from the Clutches of Control
Many of us spend our lives in pursuit of control. We want control over our careers, relationships, and even our destiny. We meticulously plan, strategize, and micromanage, believing control will lead us to happiness and success.
However, letting go teaches us that true mastery doesn’t come from control; it comes from surrender. It’s about releasing our grip on the outcomes and learning to embrace the uncertainty of life. When we let go of our need to control every aspect, we open ourselves up to new possibilities and opportunities we might have otherwise missed.
What control have you let go of?
Freedom in Minimalism
Minimalism is a lifestyle that embodies the art of letting go. It’s about decluttering our physical and mental spaces, simplifying our lives, and focusing on what truly matters. The freedom that minimalism brings is astonishing. You feel it after you clean out your closet, garage, or basement.
By letting go of material possessions that no longer serve us, we make room for experiences, relationships, and personal growth. We realize that we don’t need to be attached to our possessions and that true wealth lies not in what we own but in what we experience.
What possessions have you purged?
Releasing Emotional Baggage
Emotional baggage can be as burdensome as physical clutter. Holding onto resentments, past traumas, and negative emotions can weigh us down and prevent us from living our lives to the fullest. Learning tolet go of these emotional burdens or psychic weight is a powerful form of mastery.
Forgiveness, both of others and ourselves, is a crucial aspect of this process. When we forgive, we release the grip that the past has on us and make space for healing and personal growth. It’s not about condoning past wrongs; it’s about freeing ourselves from the shackles of anger and resentment.
What resentments have you released?
Embracing Impermanence
Life is inherently impermanent. Everything we hold dear, every experience we cherish, and every moment we savor is fleeting. Instead of mourning the brevity of life, we can embrace it as part of its beauty.
When we let go of the illusion of permanence, we become more present in each moment. We savor the beauty of a sunset, the laughter of a loved one, and the simple joys of life because we understand that these moments are gifts that are precious precisely because they are impermanent.
How do you embrace your fleeting life?
The Journey of Self-Discovery
Perhaps the journey of self-discovery is the most significant form of mastery through letting go. We uncover our true selves by shedding the layers of societal expectations, self-doubt, and the need for external validation.
This journey is not about becoming someone else or achieving some idealized version of ourselves. It’s about accepting and loving who we are in this moment, flaws and all. It’s about letting go of the masks we wear and embracing our authentic selves. It takes courage to walk this path, but the rewards are priceless.
What masks have you taken off?
The art of letting go is not a sign of weakness but a testament to true mastery. It’s about releasing the need to control, simplifying our lives, forgiving, embracing impermanence, and discovering our authentic selves. As we master the art of letting go, we find a profound beauty in the freedom, joy, and fulfillment it brings. So, let go, and in doing so, find the most beautiful form of mastery.
For more information on how you can take the next best steps to master the art of letting go, schedule your 60-minute complimentary Discovery call today!
Imagine you were equipped with all the tools you needed to navigate life’s challenges with flow and ease instead of stress and uncertainty. It can happen; once you know what to do, you only need the willingness to do it. It’s simple but not easy.
I’ve shared about the Judge, the other Saboteurs, and the Sage Perspective from Positive Intelligence®. I now want to share with you a unique concept that illuminates this path and equips you with the five transformative Sage powers has, and that can become your companions along the way. These powers will enhance your well-being, relationships, and your personal growth.
Sage Powers #1: The Power of Empathize – Building Deeper Connections
The Power of Empathize teaches you to go beneath the surface and connect deeply with another person’s experience, where understanding and compassion are cultivated. As you empathize, feeling their emotions, conflicts dissolve, and your relationships flourish. This power enriches your interactions, making you a source of comfort and support for those around you.
Sage Powers #2: The Power of Explore – Fueling Curiosity
Curiosity is a gateway to continuous growth and learning. Through the Power of Explore, you’ll venture into uncharted territories, both within yourself and in the world around you. Embracing this power opens doors to undiscovered talents, passions, and insights. By kindling your curiosity, you’ll ignite a hunger for knowledge and self-discovery that propels you toward your aspirations.
Sage Powers #3: The Power of Innovate – Transforming Challenges
The Power of Innovate is your secret weapon against adversity. It encourages you to view challenges not as roadblocks but as stepping stones toward personal evolution. This power sparks creativity and fresh perspectives, leading to ingenious solutions that propel you forward. By embracing innovation, you’ll navigate life’s hurdles with resilience, turning setbacks into launchpads for growth.
Sage Powers #4: The Power of Navigate – Embracing Change
Change is inevitable, and the Power of Navigate equips you with the skills to navigate it gracefully. As you embrace this power, you’ll develop resilience and adaptability, maintaining your balance even in the face of uncertainty. This power ensures that you stay true to your values and aspirations, fostering a sense of purpose that guides your choices.
Sage Powers #5: The Power of Activate – Turning Dreams into Reality
Have you ever felt stuck in the realm of intentions without action? The Power of Activate empowers you to bridge the gap between dreams and reality. With this power, you’ll overcome procrastination and self-doubt, taking decisive steps toward your goals. Activating your potential brings your aspirations to life, providing you with a sense of accomplishment and motivation.
It all sounds too good to be true, doesn’t it? I thought so too, but once I started my personal journey with the Positive Intelligence® Program, the Sage has been a transformative odyssey of self-discovery and empowerment. Through the five powers of Empathize, Explore, Innovate, Navigate, and Activate, I’ve not only enriched my own life but also spread positivity to those around me. The Sage’s wisdom has infused every facet of my journey, reminding me that the answers lie within, waiting to be unveiled and harnessed. As I continue this journey, I am reminded that the Sage is a lifelong companion, guiding me toward a more fulfilling and purpose-driven life.
When you adopt these powers, you will also not only enrich your own experiences but also create a positive ripple effect in the lives of those around you. The benefits extend beyond personal growth, influencing your relationships, mindset, and approach to challenges. So, take the first step on this enlightening journey and unlock the potential of the 5 Sage Powers.
To combat the stress and anxiety this fast-paced world emits, we must pause and reflect on how we can nurture our inner selves. I have found a way to navigate life’s challenges with grace and wisdom through the Sage Perspective with the Positive Intelligence® Program. It shows a way of thinking that allows us to perceive the world and ourselves as more enlightened.
In this blog post, we’ll explore the concept of Positive Intelligence®, delve into the attributes of the Sage Perspective, and unlock the Power of its three transformative gifts: Knowledge, Power, and Inspiration.
Understanding Positive Intelligence®
Positive Intelligence® refers to the capacity to maintain a positive and balanced mindset amid life’s ups and downs. It involves cultivating emotional resilience, mindfulness, and self-awareness. With this attribute, we can handle stress better, make sound decisions, and maintain harmonious relationships with others. By tapping into it, we begin the journey of self-discovery and growth, ultimately leading us to the Sage Perspective.
The Sage Perspective
The Sage Perspective represents a shift in how we perceive ourselves, others, and the world. Instead of letting our emotions and beliefs take charge, we begin to have the clarity and wisdom to see things differently. Here are the key aspects of the Sage Perspective:
Detachment from Judgments: The Sage Perspective encourages us to observe our thoughts and judgments without becoming attached to them. By detaching ourselves from these judgments, we gain a clearer understanding of our beliefs, allowing us to make conscious choices based on reality rather than assumptions.
Curiosity and Openness: Adopting the Sage Perspective means approaching life with curiosity and openness. Rather than assuming we know everything, we have a beginner’s mindset, eager to explore new ideas and perspectives. This cultivates empathy, understanding, and a deeper connection with others.
Embracing the Present Moment: The Sage Perspective teaches us to appreciate the present moment and be fully aware of our experiences. Instead of dwelling on the past or creating fantasies that haven’t happened yet, we enjoy the beauty of each moment with gratitude and contentment.
The Three Gifts
Gift 1: Knowledge
Knowledge is the foundation upon which the Sage Perspective is built. It involves a commitment to expanding your awareness through continuous learning. We gain insights into our thoughts, behaviors, and patterns when we go within. This self-awareness enables us to identify areas to work on and empowers us to break free from limiting beliefs. Knowledge is a gift that keeps giving, as the more we learn about ourselves and the world, the more we can positively contribute to others.
Gift 2:Power
The Power that comes with the Sage Perspective is not about control over others or circumstances. It’s the Power to take charge of our emotions and reactions, to respond rather than react. With this inner Power, we become more resilient in facing challenges, and setbacks become opportunities to stretch and grow. This Power also extends to our interactions with others, as we inspire and empower them instead of being affected by negativity.
Gift 3:Inspiration
When we embrace the Sage Perspective, we radiate Inspiration to those around us. Our new way of thinking is a beacon of hope, inspiring others to begin a self-discovery journey for personal growth. Inspiration is contagious, and through our actions, we can create a ripple effect of positivity that extends far beyond our immediate circles.
The Sage Perspective in the Positive Intelligence® Program offers a refreshing approach to life in a materialistic world that often emphasizes success through external achievements. By nurturing the three gifts of Knowledge, Power, and Inspiration, we can change our old way of thinking and behaving that garners genuine fulfillment.
What is stopping you from embracing the Sage Perspective—that will allow you to have the wisdom to share these gifts with the world that will create a more compassionate and resilient society?
Unraveling the Eight Inner Saboteurs Within Positive Intelligence®
Have you wondered what stopped you from being the best you?
Well, I have, and after some deep inner shadow work, I was ready to face them head-on. Around that time, I was introduced to what you now know as Positive Intelligence® or PQ®. The program has deeply influenced my path to personal growth and fulfillment. I shared last week about the Judge’s characteristics, justification lies, and the impact on you. Now I want to explore the eight secondary inner Saboteurs that hinder our growth and development and that we all have to some degree.
Positive Intelligence®, developed by Shirzad Chamine, a prominent positive psychology researcher and Stanford lecturer, equips us with tools to identify and overcome self-sabotaging tendencies, ultimately leading to greater success and happiness.
We often struggle with internal conflicts, self-doubt, and negative emotions in this fast-paced world. The eight inner Saboteurs we’ll explore today can operate subconsciously, guiding our actions and reactions. Recognizing and understanding them is the first step toward confidence, peak performance, and lasting peace of mind. Only with awareness can change occur.
Let’s meet these eight inner Saboteurs and see which ones you can identify with before you take the test:
The Stickler: Perfectionism is the root of the Stickler’s power. It constantly demands high standards, leaving no room for mistakes or experimentation, which leaves you constantly disappointed and frustrated. It may leave you with suppressed anger, anxiety, and difficulty dealing with change.
The Pleaser: Afraid of rejection and seeking external validation, the Pleaser will go to great lengths to please others, often at the expense of their own needs and desires. It can cause resentment when others don’t notice what you’ve done for them.
The Hyper-Achiever: While ambition can be a positive trait, the Hyper-Achiever pushes you relentlessly, causing stress and burnout as you chase never-ending goals. It is competitive and goal-oriented, with feelings and emotions pushed aside. There is fleeting peace of mind and happiness.
The Victim: When faced with challenges, the Victim falls into a helpless state, feeling powerless and overwhelmed. It uses negativity to garner attention and always has problems that no one understands. Terrible things always happen to you—poor me.
The Hyper-Vigilant: Constantly looking for potential dangers, the Hyper-Vigilant creates anxiety and makes you prone to overreacting. It is suspicious of other people’s motives and always waiting for the other shoe to drop.
The Restless: Always seeking the next exciting thing prevents us from thoroughly enjoying the present and leads to a lack of contentment. It is easily distracted and can get too scattered (many with ADHA have this Saboteur). It is impatient and has FOMO and Shiney Ball Syndrome.
The Avoider: Fearful of facing difficult emotions or situations, the Avoider encourages you to escape or distract yourself rather than confronting challenges head-on. It avoids conflict to spare others’ feelings and be the peacemaker by saying yes to things it doesn’t want and giving them their way.
The Hyper-Rational: Overly relying on logic and dismissing emotions, the Hyper-Rational is disconnected from their feelings and intuition. It feels that needs and emotions distract from projects, where intense focus on the rational mind and knowledge are essential. It can be seen as cold, distant, and intellectually arrogant.
(To determine your top two, take the Discover Your Saboteursassessment. I was surprised that four of mine were closely rated.)
We may identify with several of these inner Saboteurs to varying degrees. By shedding light on these inner adversaries, we open ourselves to a world of self-awareness and personal transformation. But how do we harness the power of Positive Intelligence® and free ourselves from these sabotaging influences? The following seven practices are things you can do now to help.
Cultivate Self-Compassion: Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Embrace your imperfections and acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes.
Challenge Negative Thoughts: Confront your inner critic and replace negative self-talk with empowering and affirming thoughts.
Practice Gratitude: Cultivate gratitude by acknowledging and appreciating the positives in your life, no matter how small.
Embrace Emotional Awareness: Practice mindfulness to connect with your emotions and understand their underlying causes.
Set Realistic Goals: Shift your focus from perfectionism to progress. Set achievable and meaningful goals that allow for growth and learning.
Develop Empathy: Extend empathy towards yourself and others, understanding that everyone faces their own battles and insecurities.
Embrace Change: View uncertainty and change as opportunities for growth rather than threats.
But there is an easier way to have a lasting transformation where your brain’s neural pathways are re-wired, and the inner Saboteur that sits on your shoulder or is a voice inside your head is quieted. I shared the program in an earlier email, but if you missed it, here it is again:
The PQ® Program
6-week program
1-hour weekly video
15-minutes/day practice on the app
Downloadable PDF of the book Positive Intelligence®; read eight chapters
Weekly Community Pod meeting
You can get a few friends, family members, or colleagues together and receive a discount for the program. It’s guaranteed results, and if you do the work, attend the Pod meetings, watch the videos, and read the book, and you aren’t satisfied, you’ll receive a 100% refund, guaranteed.
Remember, every day is an opportunity to grow and thrive, and with my Positive Intelligence Coaching program, you’ll find the strength and wisdom to make the most of each precious moment with complete confidence and peace of mind where you have the capacity to respond to all of life’s challenges with a positive mindset.
Until next time, be well and be the best you can be!
