Step Five: Question and Release the Paradigm Step Five comes into play after you have examined the forces that created your behavior pattern or paradigm. You are now prepared to question it deeply and let it go, or you may feel clear about the pattern…
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STEP FOUR: OWN THE PATTERN AND THE PROCESS OF LEARNING To become a whole, integrated being, you must get to the root cause of any issue, blocks, or trauma you may have. You want to treat your entire system, not just the symptoms. In the…
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Step Three: Search and Find the Underlying Pattern (Part 2 of 2) In Part 1, you learned what a paradigm map was and the type of questions that you would be asked to expand it. Giving the space for exploration and slowing down the process…
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Step Three: Search and Find the Underlying Pattern (Part 1 of 2) Now that you’ve identified a problem and set a clear transformational goal for your life, it’s time to explore the underlying patterns of your paradigm, which may be locked in place and invisible.…
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SET A TRANSFORMATIONAL GOAL “You’re transforming old patterns of your mind and letting go of thoughts you don’t need to have around any longer.” Anonymous The second step in your transformational journey is to set a transformational goal. You’ve already identified your problem and declared…
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STEP ONE: START WITH A PROBLEM AND A DESIRE FOR CHANGE The first step toward transformation is acknowledging that you have a problem in life that is causing unfavorable consequences. It may be challenging, but nothing will change if you don’t recognize it. Here are…
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THE NATURE OF PARADIGMS AND HOW THEY ARE FORMED What is a Personal Paradigm? Personal paradigms are the lenses through which we see the world, shaping our understanding of how we live in it. Paradigms are guidelines for our behavior—what we think, feel, and live—that…
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7 STEPS TO RECLAIM YOUR SELF-ESTEEM If you’re still in the throes of chaos and feeling less than, you are not alone. I’ve been there, as have others before me, and others will continue after me. It’s painful, and it hurts—and you don’t want to…
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The revelation, that was at death’s doorstep,and a moment of clarity, led me to say the three most challenging words I ever uttered, “I need help!” In and of itself, divorce is enough to bury someone deep in dark places. Couple that with addiction,…
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“I want a divorce.” The words feel like a punch to my solar plexus, knocking the wind and life force out of me. I can’t feel myself breathe, and the pain in my jaw is visceral. Fear grips every inch of my body, like a…
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ARE YOU AFRAID TO HURT SOMEONE’S FEELINGS? When explaining why you didn’t tell a friend what you really thought about something personal to them, have you ever said: “I didn’t want to hurt their feelings?” I’m sure, like most people, you have at one point…
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DO YOU WANT MORE SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS IN LIFE? Have you ever reacted to people or situations in a not-so-nice manner and wished you could take it back? Do you judge yourself, others, or circumstances? Do you self-sabotage unconsciously? Like most people, you answered yes to…
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