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ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE? (Part 2)

ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE? (Part 2)

by | May 13, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

Are you where you want to be in life Part 2

Communicating Your Vision

Part 1 gave you a few ideas about where to begin your journey from where you are to where you want to be. After you have meditated, set your intention, cleared out any limiting beliefs (if you’re not sure how to, I can help), and discovered your life purpose, you now need to communicate it to others.

Why Communicating Your Vision Matters

The words you choose when communicating your vision are vital to make it materialize. When you tell your story to others with enthusiasm, it may inspire them to help you achieve your dream by offering support or advice. Doing this gives you the necessary feedback to hone your vision to clarify what you want precisely.

How to Effectively Communicate Your Vision

Use your journal to explore these key questions:

  • What do you most want others to know about your vision, and why?
  • How do you want people to feel after hearing about your dream?
  • What fears do you have about sharing your vision? What’s the best feedback you could receive?
  • Do you want others to help you? If so, how will you ask them?

By gaining clarity on your answers, you’ll communicate your vision more confidently and attract the right people who can support your journey.

Setting SMART Goals to Bring Your Vision to Life

Once your vision is clear, it’s time to turn it into actionable steps. SMART goals help transform dreams into tangible results:

✔ S—SPECIFIC: Clearly define what you want to accomplish. Why is it important? What actions will you take? Who needs to be involved?

✔ M—MEASURABLE: How will you track progress? What specific milestones will indicate success?

✔ A—ATTAINABLE: Is your goal achievable with your current resources, skills, or support system?

✔ R—REALISTIC: Does your vision align with your values and long-term goals?

✔ T—TIME-BOUND: What’s your deadline? Setting a timeframe ensures accountability.

Now, write down five essential goals that will move your vision forward. Phrase them as commitments, such as:
“I will do whatever it takes to [achieve my dream].”

Then, organize them in priority order—some steps may need to be completed before others can begin.

Bringing Your Vision into Reality

Once you have your plan, the final step in communicating your vision is talking about it consistently. Speaking about your dreams keeps them in focus and invites opportunities for collaboration and support.

Where attention goes, energy flows.

By sharing your aspirations with the right people, you create momentum and increase the likelihood of turning your vision into reality.

💡 Remember: If you don’t ask, the answer is always NO. Be bold—express your vision, invite help, and keep moving forward.

Dont die with your dreams

What’s Next?

With your goals set and your vision shared, you’re ready for action! In Part 3, we’ll dive into the next steps needed to make your dreams come to life.

💬 Let’s connect on Facebook—I share insights, inspiration, and upcoming events to support you on your journey!

ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE? (Part 1)

ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE? (Part 1)

by | May 6, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

Discovering Your Purpose in Life

DISCOVERING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE

Have you ever woken up feeling like you’re simply going through the motions—existing rather than truly living? I have. I realized that instead of directing my life where I wanted it to go, I was being dragged along without intention.

What did I do?

First, I acknowledged that I needed help—with accountability, taking the right first steps, and goal-setting. It felt like starting AA all over again. In many ways, I was. The 12-Steps of AA held me accountable, provided a structured path, and helped me reach the goals I set for myself.

Simple, but not easy. Just like life.

To begin discovering your purpose in life, here are a few essential actions you can take to shift from being pulled along at the back of the train (the caboose) to stepping into your power as the engine that drives your own life.

The First Step to Discovering Your Purpose in Life: Quiet Your Mind

The most critical first action is quieting your mind. Whether through meditation, a walk in nature, or simply sitting in stillness, this practice is essential. It allows you to open your consciousness, be present, and connect with your higher purpose.

Try this:
🧘 Reflect on one question each morning, such as, “What is important for me to notice today?”

🌟 Set a daily intention that focuses on where you want to be in life. Soon, you’ll notice your reality shifting to align with your vision.

Clearing Limiting Beliefs

As you move forward in discovering your purpose in life, take time to examine and clear limiting beliefs that hold you back. There are many ways to do this, but one effective method is The BeliefCloset Process (which I’ll explore in a future post).

Once you eliminate beliefs that no longer serve you, you create space for new possibilities and greater alignment with your true calling.

How to Discover Your Purpose in Life

Discovering your purpose in life is a deeply personal journey, but these steps can help:

✔ Ask Yourself: “What do I love to do?” – Your purpose should feel natural and energizing, like flowing downstream, not struggling like a salmon swimming upstream.

✔ Look to Your Past: Identify moments when you felt most alive and connected with your higher self. What experiences brought you joy and fulfillment?

✔ Recognize Patterns: Analyze these meaningful moments and look for common qualities that define your true passions.

✔ Find Your Purpose Category: Does your passion involve teaching, supporting others, leading, creating, working with nature, or something else? Identifying your purpose’s theme can provide clarity.

✔ Create a Vision: Write down your ideal life or use a vision board to visualize what truly resonates with you.

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What’s Next? Communicating Your Vision

Once you’ve taken the first steps in discovering your purpose in life, the next phase is communicating your vision to bring it to life. We’ll explore that in Part 2 of this series.

💡 “LIFE PURPOSE: Your purpose is not what you do to bring home a paycheck. Your purpose is what you were put on this earth to do with such intensity and passion that it becomes a SPIRITUAL CALLING.”~ The Spiritual Compass

For more guidance on discovering your purpose in life, please schedule a 15-minute virtual coffee to chat.

Mindfulness Habits: Simple Steps to Reduce Stress & Anxiety

Mindfulness Habits: Simple Steps to Reduce Stress & Anxiety

by | Feb 28, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

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Mindfulness Habits: Simple Steps to Reduce Stress & Anxiety

What Are Mindfulness Habits?

Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present—directing your attention to what you’re doing and your surroundings rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Mindfulness habits are simple, daily practices that help cultivate awareness, reduce stress, and enhance overall well-being.

If you’re looking for a deeper transformation, mindfulness plays a key role in transformative coaching—a powerful approach that helps you break through limiting beliefs and create lasting change in your life.

As Jon Kabat-Zinn defines it, mindfulness involves:
✅ Paying attention on purpose
✅ Staying rooted in the present moment
✅ Observing without judgment

Breaking Down Mindfulness Habits

🔹 On Purpose – Practicing mindfulness means intentionally directing your focus. When we live more consciously, we stay awake and engaged in the moment.

🔹 In the Present Moment – Letting go of tension caused by wishing things were different helps us accept and embrace what is happening right now.

🔹 Non-Judgmentally – Practicing mindfulness doesn’t mean stopping thoughts—it means observing them without judgment and allowing experiences to unfold naturally.

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Why Are Mindfulness Habits Important?

You might be wondering: What does living in the present even mean?

Have you ever driven somewhere, arrived, and realized you don’t remember the journey? Or walked into a room but forgot why you went there?

These are signs of mindlessness—being stuck on autopilot rather than truly engaging with your experiences. Mindfulness habits break this cycle, bringing you back to awareness so you can fully experience life.

Mindfulness in Daily Life

One of the best ways to integrate mindfulness habits is by engaging in daily activities with full awareness.

For example, in yoga practice, rather than focusing on how a pose should look, I encourage students to focus on how it feels. This shift allows them to experience the present moment rather than getting caught up in expectations.

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The same applies to daily life—when you live in the past, you carry guilt and regret. When you live in the future, you carry stress and anxiety.

By practicing mindfulness habits, you shift from being a spectator of life to being an active participant.

6 Quick & Easy Mindfulness Habits

If you’re new to mindfulness, here are six simple mindfulness habits you can start today—each takes one minute or less!

1. Count Your Breaths

  • Inhale, count 1, exhale 2.
  • Continue counting up to 10, then repeat three times.
  • This helps reset your mind and bring awareness to your breath.

2. Yawn & Stretch Every Hour

  • Fake a yawn to trigger a real one.
  • Stretch your arms slowly for 10 seconds, noticing any tension.
  • Take another 20 seconds to check in with your body.

3. Mindful Touch Exercise

  • Close your eyes and stroke your fingers gently with the opposite hand.
  • Focus on sensation and texture as you repeat on both hands.

4. Do a Quick Body Scan

  • Start at the top of your head and move your awareness down to your toes.
  • Relax each body part as you bring attention to it.

5. Mindful Eating

  • Choose a raisin or piece of chocolate.
  • Observe it with all five senses before eating slowly.
  • Appreciate its texture, taste, and aroma with each bite.

6. One-Minute Breathing Exercise

  • Place a hand on your stomach and focus on the rise and fall of your breath.
  • If your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to your breathing.

The Power of Mindfulness Habits

Just like weightlifting builds muscle, mindfulness strengthens your ability to stay present. The more consistently you practice, the more time you’ll spend living in the moment rather than lost in distractions.

Mindfulness is also a foundational part of transformative coaching—helping individuals release limiting thoughts and embrace a mindset of growth and self-awareness.

So, wouldn’t NOW be the perfect time to start your mindfulness practice?

💡 Ready to transform your mindset?
Schedule your FREE 15-minute Virtual Coffee today to explore how mindfulness habits can improve your life.

THE WOUNDED CHILD ARCHETYPE

THE WOUNDED CHILD ARCHETYPE

by | Jan 29, 2019 | Blog

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THE WOUNDED CHILD ARCHETYPE

The Wounded Child archetype is one of several aspects of the Child archetype. The others include the Magical Child, The Nature Child, the Abandoned child, the Divine Child, the Invisible Child, and the Eternal Child. Everyone shares the Child archetype as well as its variations to some extent or another.

The Wounded Child is an archetype that contains negative emotional patterns children experienced. The wounds could have been abuse, neglect, or trauma, but they usually occur before seven. There is permanent damage that is haunting them.

The pain from their childhood wound will repeatedly replay in their adult life until the trauma or wound is healed.

Anger is a pattern of behavior that manifests. The pattern remains Webp.net resizeimage 96 with them and erupts as they grow older. There’s a continual eruption that plays out throughout their adult life. It’s destructive because the wounded child acts out the wounds of his childhood and feels justified doing that. That’s the child part—the temper tantrum.

One thing to remember when you are dealing with a Wounded Child, whether it’s someone else or yourself—it’s a pattern of behavior, and it’s not personal. When the Child archetype comes out, it is in the Shadow aspect. It is a time when the Wounded Child can feel misunderstood, such as reliving an event where they were accused or punished for something they didn’t do. Or perhaps they are reminded of a time when they were abandoned.

Whatever it is, the wound can only be healed by first recognizing the behavior pattern and that it’s not personal. Webp.net resizeimage 95 All Wounded Children erupt in anger; that’s just the pattern; it’s not personal. The Shadow aspect may manifest in self-pity, with a tendency to blame their parents for the reason why they are in their current position. It also blocks the path to forgiveness.

However, the painful experiences of the Wounded Child archetype can often awaken a deep sense of compassion, where there is a call to being of service to help other Wounded Children. From this spiritual enlightenment, a path of forgiveness is opened.

Do you have the Wounded Child archetype?

If you have the Wounded Child archetype, you may relate to one of the following behavior patterns.

The Wounded Child shows itself when:

  • you don’t get what you want
  • you need your wound to be validated
  • your wound is more significant than anyone else’s
  • you always look for someone to take responsibility for what happened to you
  • you frequently need to be loved and valued

How does one move from the shadow to the light?

All the Child archetype variations have a presence in the subconscious that is universal, as do the other three Survival Archetypes, and it is crippling in their adverse effects. Through becoming self-aware, it is through recognizing and identifying repeated patterns of behavior throughout our lives that have had authority over our choices. You embark on the Journey of Life where you move from the caboose of your train—where life drags you—to the engine—where you have the power to direct it.

The Journey of Life is a process and not something that is done quickly. Learning why you do the things you do will enable you to make better decisions and identify the actions you need to take to start down the path of personal evolution and transformation.

Schedule your free 15-minute Assessment today to begin your Journey of Empowerment.

DO YOU RECOGNIZE YOUR SABOTEUR?

DO YOU RECOGNIZE YOUR SABOTEUR?

by | Dec 10, 2018 | Blog

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DO YOU RECOGNIZE YOUR SABOTEUR?

We all have archetypes—universal patterns of mythical power— within our psyche, and the Saboteur archetype may be the most difficult to understand because its name is associated with betrayal. Caroline Myss calls it the Guardian of Choice because its purpose is to help you identify when you are about to make a decision that weakens you.

When an opportunity arises that helps you grow by stretching your comfort zone, have you ever heard a whispering voice beneath you that says, “You’re not good enough. You’ll never make that achievement?” If you have, what you’re hearing is the internal Saboteur raising the possibility of failure, which is a decidedly fearsome prospect.

Another example is when you fear success. You call upon the Saboteur to destroy the foundation of that success because the responsibility seems overwhelming: What if I let people down?  What if I’m not able to sustain the position?

The Saboteur operates in the shadows of our subconscious.

HOW TO BECOME AWARE OF THE SABOTEUR

The Saboteur’s fears and issues are all related to low self-esteem that causes you to make choices that block your empowerment and success.

The Saboteur’s core issue is fear of initiating change into your life, change that rearranges your entire reality and requires you to respond in a positive way to opportunities that shape and deepen your self-esteem and empowerment. Ignore it, and the shadow Saboteur will manifest in the form of destructive behavior or the desire to undermine others.

It typically makes its presence known through a feeling or a thought that is rooted in fear. It may be a feeling of anxiety, doubt, of looking stupid, lack of confidence, or being afraid of failing. The Saboteur can guard your heart and push away any people or opportunities that bring you joy or success.  saboteur

Only when we become aware of the Saboteur and recognize it can we make it our ally. The first way you can explore the shadow aspect of the Saboteur is to observe your behavior. You can effectively do this by creating a journal where you recorded the times or events when you realized you’d sabotaged yourself.

The keyword here is OBSERVE. The Saboteur needs to be recognized for it to be integrated.

You don’t want to analyze. You want to observe, and through the power of observation, you will garner the capacity to see things from a higher perspective, which will lead to positive behavioral change.

QUESTIONS TO ASK OF YOURSELF

Acknowledging the Saboteur requires us to take responsibility as we must look at our failures and missed opportunities and find how we contributed to the situation. A few questions to ask yourself to learn how to become aware of the action of the Saboteur within are:

  • In what areas of my life do I fear change?
  • What fears have the most authority over me? List three.
  • How have I thwarted my success in the past?
  • What am I protecting myself or someone else from by sabotaging my success?
  • What happens when fear overtakes me? Does it make me silent?
  • Have I let creative opportunities pass me by?
  • How conscious am I in the moment that I am sabotaging myself?

When we make the Saboteur our friend and ally, we can then make decisions based on our highest purpose in life, as we stand firm in our center with unwavering self-esteem rather than giving in to our fears egos.