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ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE (PART 3)

by Debbie Gill | May 28, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

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Part 1 gave you a few ideas about where to begin your journey from where you are to where you want to be; meditation, setting your intention, clearing out limiting beliefs and blocks, and discovering your life purpose. In Part 2, you learned that you need to communicate your vision or dream and were given SMART goals to clarify what you need to say by writing them in your journal. You now need to move your plan into the world of relationships and building meaningful connections.

What Do You Love About Your Dream?

When you are passionate about your dream, you are opening your heart to all that is possible. Since the heart is the link between energy and matter and the mind and body, it is the foundation for unifying these opposing sides. It connects your energy (spirit) and matter, as well as your mind and body, enhancing their relationships.

As with anything in life, your dreams, visions, or goals will incur challenges and hurdles to overcome, making it vital for you to remember what you love about your dream.

Write down all the things you love about your dream.

Ensure they are in alignment with your core values, inspire you, and elevate your heart. Use the list to reaffirm your passion when you encounter hardships along the way.

The Role of Service in Building Meaningful Connections

An important element for obtaining your dream that it benefits not only yourself but includes others. In what ways does it serve other people? Are you helping, being of service—or is your vision all about you and what you want? This is the heart of relationships—emphasizing your service to others.

As a result of service to others, new relationships will be created that will help you attain your dream. You’ve communicated your needs, received support for them, and now the right connections will be formed. When you live in heart consciousness, the network of friends, family, co-workers, and others you’ve established will help you find the right relationships necessary for the manifestation of your dream.

Key Questions for Building Meaningful Connections

Who do I know? Who do I want to know?
How can I connect with more people? How can I make deeper connections?
Who knows me? Who should know me?
Who are my ideal clients or customers? What are their needs, wants, and desires?
Who would benefit from being connected to my dreams? How would my goal serve them?

By asking these questions, you become intentional about building meaningful connections with the right people—those who can support, inspire, and uplift you on your journey.

Is what you are creating filled with beauty and love?

Beauty opens our hearts to love and connects heaven and earth, just as it is between mind and body. The act of creating something of beauty is a way of bringing good into the world. Infused with optimism, it says simply: Life is worthwhile. The effort to create enduring beauty is not dependent on style but truth. Beauty is resilient; it is life-affirming, it gives back to create more life.

Take time to add beauty to your creation—it will attract love—and what is truly loved becomes beautiful and is eternal.

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What’s Next? Strengthening Your Personal Will

Now that you’ve explored building meaningful connections, the next step is strengthening your personal will and creating a map to success.

In Part 4, you’ll learn how to overcome challenges and obstacles, develop resilience, and stay committed to your dream.

To learn more details in creating your dream on purpose, contact me for a complimentary 15-Minute Virtual Coffee.

ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE? (Part 2)

by Debbie Gill | May 13, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

Communicating Your Vision

Part 1 gave you a few ideas about where to begin your journey from where you are to where you want to be. After you have meditated, set your intention, cleared out any limiting beliefs (if you’re not sure how to, I can help), and discovered your life purpose, you now need to communicate it to others.

Why Communicating Your Vision Matters

The words you choose when communicating your vision are vital to make it materialize. When you tell your story to others with enthusiasm, it may inspire them to help you achieve your dream by offering support or advice. Doing this gives you the necessary feedback to hone your vision to clarify what you want precisely.

How to Effectively Communicate Your Vision

Use your journal to explore these key questions:

What do you most want others to know about your vision, and why?
How do you want people to feel after hearing about your dream?
What fears do you have about sharing your vision? What’s the best feedback you could receive?
Do you want others to help you? If so, how will you ask them?

By gaining clarity on your answers, you’ll communicate your vision more confidently and attract the right people who can support your journey.

Setting SMART Goals to Bring Your Vision to Life

Once your vision is clear, it’s time to turn it into actionable steps. SMART goals help transform dreams into tangible results:

✔ S—SPECIFIC: Clearly define what you want to accomplish. Why is it important? What actions will you take? Who needs to be involved?

✔ M—MEASURABLE: How will you track progress? What specific milestones will indicate success?

✔ A—ATTAINABLE: Is your goal achievable with your current resources, skills, or support system?

✔ R—REALISTIC: Does your vision align with your values and long-term goals?

✔ T—TIME-BOUND: What’s your deadline? Setting a timeframe ensures accountability.

Now, write down five essential goals that will move your vision forward. Phrase them as commitments, such as:
“I will do whatever it takes to [achieve my dream].”

Then, organize them in priority order—some steps may need to be completed before others can begin.

Bringing Your Vision into Reality

Once you have your plan, the final step in communicating your vision is talking about it consistently. Speaking about your dreams keeps them in focus and invites opportunities for collaboration and support.

Where attention goes, energy flows.

By sharing your aspirations with the right people, you create momentum and increase the likelihood of turning your vision into reality.

💡 Remember: If you don’t ask, the answer is always NO. Be bold—express your vision, invite help, and keep moving forward.

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What’s Next?

With your goals set and your vision shared, you’re ready for action! In Part 3, we’ll dive into the next steps needed to make your dreams come to life.

💬 Let’s connect on Facebook—I share insights, inspiration, and upcoming events to support you on your journey!

ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE? (Part 1)

by Debbie Gill | May 6, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

DISCOVERING YOUR PURPOSE IN LIFE

Have you ever woken up feeling like you’re simply going through the motions—existing rather than truly living? I have. I realized that instead of directing my life where I wanted it to go, I was being dragged along without intention.

What did I do?

First, I acknowledged that I needed help—with accountability, taking the right first steps, and goal-setting. It felt like starting AA all over again. In many ways, I was. The 12-Steps of AA held me accountable, provided a structured path, and helped me reach the goals I set for myself.

Simple, but not easy. Just like life.

To begin discovering your purpose in life, here are a few essential actions you can take to shift from being pulled along at the back of the train (the caboose) to stepping into your power as the engine that drives your own life.

The First Step to Discovering Your Purpose in Life: Quiet Your Mind

The most critical first action is quieting your mind. Whether through meditation, a walk in nature, or simply sitting in stillness, this practice is essential. It allows you to open your consciousness, be present, and connect with your higher purpose.

Try this:
🧘 Reflect on one question each morning, such as, “What is important for me to notice today?”

🌟 Set a daily intention that focuses on where you want to be in life. Soon, you’ll notice your reality shifting to align with your vision.

Clearing Limiting Beliefs

As you move forward in discovering your purpose in life, take time to examine and clear limiting beliefs that hold you back. There are many ways to do this, but one effective method is The BeliefCloset Process (which I’ll explore in a future post).

Once you eliminate beliefs that no longer serve you, you create space for new possibilities and greater alignment with your true calling.

How to Discover Your Purpose in Life

Discovering your purpose in life is a deeply personal journey, but these steps can help:

✔ Ask Yourself: “What do I love to do?” – Your purpose should feel natural and energizing, like flowing downstream, not struggling like a salmon swimming upstream.

✔ Look to Your Past: Identify moments when you felt most alive and connected with your higher self. What experiences brought you joy and fulfillment?

✔ Recognize Patterns: Analyze these meaningful moments and look for common qualities that define your true passions.

✔ Find Your Purpose Category: Does your passion involve teaching, supporting others, leading, creating, working with nature, or something else? Identifying your purpose’s theme can provide clarity.

✔ Create a Vision: Write down your ideal life or use a vision board to visualize what truly resonates with you.

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What’s Next? Communicating Your Vision

Once you’ve taken the first steps in discovering your purpose in life, the next phase is communicating your vision to bring it to life. We’ll explore that in Part 2 of this series.

💡 “LIFE PURPOSE: Your purpose is not what you do to bring home a paycheck. Your purpose is what you were put on this earth to do with such intensity and passion that it becomes a SPIRITUAL CALLING.”~ The Spiritual Compass

For more guidance on discovering your purpose in life, please schedule a 15-minute virtual coffee to chat.

Mindfulness Habits: Simple Steps to Reduce Stress & Anxiety

by Debbie Gill | Feb 28, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

Mindfulness Habits: Simple Steps to Reduce Stress & Anxiety

What Are Mindfulness Habits?

Mindfulness is the practice of being fully present—directing your attention to what you’re doing and your surroundings rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. Mindfulness habits are simple, daily practices that help cultivate awareness, reduce stress, and enhance overall well-being.

If you’re looking for a deeper transformation, mindfulness plays a key role in transformative coaching—a powerful approach that helps you break through limiting beliefs and create lasting change in your life.

As Jon Kabat-Zinn defines it, mindfulness involves:
✅ Paying attention on purpose
✅ Staying rooted in the present moment
✅ Observing without judgment

Breaking Down Mindfulness Habits

🔹 On Purpose – Practicing mindfulness means intentionally directing your focus. When we live more consciously, we stay awake and engaged in the moment.

🔹 In the Present Moment – Letting go of tension caused by wishing things were different helps us accept and embrace what is happening right now.

🔹 Non-Judgmentally – Practicing mindfulness doesn’t mean stopping thoughts—it means observing them without judgment and allowing experiences to unfold naturally.

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Why Are Mindfulness Habits Important?

You might be wondering: What does living in the present even mean?

Have you ever driven somewhere, arrived, and realized you don’t remember the journey? Or walked into a room but forgot why you went there?

These are signs of mindlessness—being stuck on autopilot rather than truly engaging with your experiences. Mindfulness habits break this cycle, bringing you back to awareness so you can fully experience life.

Mindfulness in Daily Life

One of the best ways to integrate mindfulness habits is by engaging in daily activities with full awareness.

For example, in yoga practice, rather than focusing on how a pose should look, I encourage students to focus on how it feels. This shift allows them to experience the present moment rather than getting caught up in expectations.

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The same applies to daily life—when you live in the past, you carry guilt and regret. When you live in the future, you carry stress and anxiety.

By practicing mindfulness habits, you shift from being a spectator of life to being an active participant.

6 Quick & Easy Mindfulness Habits

If you’re new to mindfulness, here are six simple mindfulness habits you can start today—each takes one minute or less!

1. Count Your Breaths

Inhale, count 1, exhale 2.
Continue counting up to 10, then repeat three times.
This helps reset your mind and bring awareness to your breath.

2. Yawn & Stretch Every Hour

Fake a yawn to trigger a real one.
Stretch your arms slowly for 10 seconds, noticing any tension.
Take another 20 seconds to check in with your body.

3. Mindful Touch Exercise

Close your eyes and stroke your fingers gently with the opposite hand.
Focus on sensation and texture as you repeat on both hands.

4. Do a Quick Body Scan

Start at the top of your head and move your awareness down to your toes.
Relax each body part as you bring attention to it.

5. Mindful Eating

Choose a raisin or piece of chocolate.
Observe it with all five senses before eating slowly.
Appreciate its texture, taste, and aroma with each bite.

6. One-Minute Breathing Exercise

Place a hand on your stomach and focus on the rise and fall of your breath.
If your mind wanders, gently bring your attention back to your breathing.

The Power of Mindfulness Habits

Just like weightlifting builds muscle, mindfulness strengthens your ability to stay present. The more consistently you practice, the more time you’ll spend living in the moment rather than lost in distractions.

Mindfulness is also a foundational part of transformative coaching—helping individuals release limiting thoughts and embrace a mindset of growth and self-awareness.

So, wouldn’t NOW be the perfect time to start your mindfulness practice?

💡 Ready to transform your mindset?
Schedule your FREE 15-minute Virtual Coffee today to explore how mindfulness habits can improve your life.

THE POWER OF WORDS

by Debbie Gill | Jan 26, 2018 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

THE POWER OF WORDS

Have you ever not wanted to commit to something?
Do you say the first thing that comes to mind?
Have you ever regretted what you said to someone?

If you are like me, you are living life on autopilot. In other words, your responses are programmed. When I was discharged from Caron Treatment Center, a drug and alcohol rehabilitation center, I found it necessary to change only one thing; that one thing was everything!

That was a tall order! Instead of being overwhelmed, I broke it down into smaller steps. One of the first things I noticed that needed changing was my vocabulary, not only the words I was speaking but also the thoughts in my mind. So I began to remove words that didn’t empower me, such as try, probably, and hard.

Take the word try; it prevents us from committing. When we try to do something, we allow wiggle room. Trying means we aren’t devoting any energy to do something. It also provides us an excuse for why we didn’t achieve the results we wanted, letting ourselves off the hook when we fail.

Try to pick up a pen, glass, or anything for that matter. When you do pick up the object, try is impossible. You have picked it up. There is no try.

THAT’S THE POWER OF THE WORD TRY!

Are you trying to eat healthily —or are you eating healthy?
Are you trying to exercise daily—or are you exercising daily?
Are you trying to set boundaries by saying no—or are you setting boundaries by saying no?

Do you see the difference? When you hit a pause button, it will be an effort not to say the word try because you’re now dealing with another kind of power. You are going from “not committing” to “committing.” Feel what it feels like to say, “I’ll be over at one o’clock,” instead of, “I’ll try to come over.” It’s a different kind of power.

Nothing changes in a person’s life who uses the word try. If you want to change, here are three steps you can take:

Eliminate the word try from your vocabulary.
Heed Yoda’s advice and decide to “do or do not.”
Commit fully to the outcome you want.

Another response I encounter from many people who operate on auto-pilot is their reply to my “Thank you.” I almost always hear, “No problem.” No problem? Should it be a problem that you waited on me? That’s your job. But the more critical issue is that you’re sending out negative vibrations to the universe—and me!

Since the universe doesn’t hear a negative, when you say, “No problem,” it hears “problem.” And for me, you can keep that problem; I don’t want it, nor will I accept it. Instead, I ask, “What happened to ‘You’re welcome,’ or ‘My pleasure?‘”

If you’re not creating the abundance you want in life, take a moment and reflect—Am I choosing words that empower me or disempower me?

Choices have consequences. Your choices today will affect the rest of your life. Choose wisely.

A great book I highly recommend. It’s called “I Get To,” by Alicia Dunams. It helps you transform your world with words and empower you to harness the power of intentional communication.