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Surrendering: Embracing the Power of Letting Go

Surrendering: Embracing the Power of Letting Go

by | Nov 13, 2024 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

Power of letting go

Surrendering: Embracing the Power of Letting Go

Letting go is one of the most challenging yet transformative experiences we can have in life. We often cling to control, fearing the unknown, but true peace comes when we learn to surrender. The power of letting go allows us to release resistance, trust the process, and embrace life as it unfolds.

If you’re seeking deeper personal transformation, learning to let go is an essential step. Transformative Coaching can help you navigate this journey by providing the tools and support you need to release what’s holding you back and step into a more empowered version of yourself.

Understanding the Power of Letting Go

We all encounter moments where holding on feels safer than releasing. But in reality, the power of letting go is what frees us from emotional burdens, fear, and self-imposed limitations. When we surrender, we open ourselves to new possibilities, healing, and a deeper connection with our true selves.

Surrendering doesn’t mean giving up—it means choosing faith over fear, allowing life to flow instead of forcing outcomes.

Why Is Surrender So Challenging?

As humans, we’re wired to seek security and control. We want to protect ourselves from pain and uncertainty, so we cling tightly to things we feel we can influence. Surrendering often means loosening our grip on our deeply held beliefs and releasing old patterns that no longer serve us. Letting go is intimidating because it requires us to step into the unknown, trusting that there is wisdom in the process even if we can’t see it yet.

Signs You Need to Embrace the Power of Letting Go

If you resonate with any of these, it may be time to practice the power of letting go:

  • You feel stuck in the past, replaying old memories or regrets.
  • Fear of uncertainty keeps you from moving forward.
  • You struggle with perfectionism and the need to control everything.
  • Holding onto resentment or anger is draining your energy.
  • Anxiety about the future is keeping you from enjoying the present.

Acknowledging these signs is the first step toward release. Letting go brings emotional freedom and a sense of inner peace.

6 Steps to Unlock the Power of Letting Go

  1. Identify What You’re Holding Onto
    The first step in surrendering is recognizing what you resist or try to control. Maybe it’s a past hurt, a challenging relationship, or a need to be perfect. Name it, bring it to your awareness, and be honest about how it’s impacting your life.
  2. Acknowledge Your Desire for Control
    Accept that the desire for control is natural. Reflect on how attempting to control everything might be limiting you, adding stress, or even causing pain. Understand that letting go doesn’t mean you’re powerless; it means allowing space for greater strength to emerge.
  3. Embrace the Power of Faith
    Whether you find faith in God, the universe, or your inner wisdom, trusting in something greater than yourself is essential. In moments of fear or frustration, remind yourself that there is a purpose beyond your immediate understanding. Surrendering is an act of faith—a belief that even in uncertainty, there is guidance.
  4. Practice Letting Go in Small Ways
    Surrender doesn’t have to start with life’s most significant issues. Begin with something small, like letting go of the need to control an outcome in a minor situation. Observe the relief it brings and use this as a stepping stone for larger moments of surrender.
  5. Shift from Reaction to Response
    Instead of reacting with anxiety or frustration when things don’t go as planned, pause, breathe, and consciously respond. Ask yourself: “How can I see this differently?” or “What is the lesson in this for me?” Surrender involves moving away from a reactive state and into a place of observation and acceptance.
  6. Create a Ritual of Release
    Rituals can be powerful in letting go. Write down your worries, fears, or things you can’t control, and then release them—burn the paper, bury it, or throw it away. Physically releasing these items can bring a sense of freedom and lightness.

What Happens When You Surrender

When you choose to surrender (and it is a choice), you allow yourself to move from resistance to acceptance. This shift creates a space for clarity, healing, and new perspectives to emerge. The very act of letting go can feel like lifting a heavy burden, opening the door to peace, joy, and greater resilience.

In my journey, I experienced a moment of surrender that transformed everything. After struggling and resisting the need for help, I reached a point where I could no longer keep up the fight. That moment of surrender was like a gift, an unexpected clarity, and peace that washed over me. I then understood surrender not as a loss but as an invitation to allow grace to guide my steps forward. I was no longer carrying the weight of my burdens alone.

When we surrender, we align with our higher self and invite miracles into our lives. Healing begins not because we have forced it but because we have allowed space for it to unfold naturally. We start seeing signs, receiving insights, and feeling supported in ways we couldn’t have imagined.

Surrendering is not a single act but a practice, a choice we make every day to trust the journey we are on. It’s a profound transformation that teaches us that even in our darkest moments, we are never truly alone.

Final Thoughts: Embrace the Power of Letting Go

If you’re struggling with the idea of surrender, start by simply being open to it. Know that surrendering is not a sign of weakness but of immense strength. It’s the courage to let go and trust that, in doing so, we open ourselves to a life of greater peace, wisdom, and healing.

Surrender may feel like stepping into the unknown, but it is often there, in the depths of our vulnerability, that we find our truest strength. So, breathe, trust, and allow yourself the grace to let go. The path forward might surprise you, bringing growth, peace, and possibilities beyond your imagination.

If you’re ready to experience the power of letting go on a deeper level, Transformative Coaching can help guide you through the process. Let go of what no longer serves you and step into your highest self today.

If you’re holding onto something and want to let it go but can’t, schedule your complimentary Discovery call. Together, we’ll plan the first steps for you to let it go.

🚀 Now is the perfect time to embrace this transformation—because the best version of you is waiting on the other side of letting go.

The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best

The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best

by | Oct 4, 2024 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

The fourth agreement

The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best

In The Four Agreements, Don Miguel Ruiz presents The Fourth Agreement: Always Do Your Best, a principle that has profoundly shaped my approach to personal growth, relationships, and creativity. This agreement teaches that our best effort changes daily—but as long as we give it our all, we free ourselves from regret and self-judgment.

At Go Within Spiritual Coaching, we believe that embracing this agreement can transform your mindset and lead to greater fulfillment.

The Fourth Agreement in Action: Doing My Best with Technology

Navigating technological challenges can be frustrating. Whether it’s learning a new tool, troubleshooting a problem, or adapting to digital changes, doing my best doesn’t mean perfection—it means staying patient and committed to learning. Some days, progress comes easily; other days, it’s a struggle. But by applying The Fourth Agreement, I focus on persistence rather than immediate success.

The Fourth Agreement and Relationships: Doing My Best with People

Applying The Fourth Agreement in relationships means showing up with authenticity and kindness—even when it’s difficult. As a coach, friend, or family member, I strive to meet others where they are, offering compassion instead of judgment. Some days, being patient and understanding comes naturally; other times, it’s harder. But the key is to always do the best I can in that moment.

Creativity and The Fourth Agreement: Doing My Best Every Day

Creativity is unpredictable. Some days, inspiration flows effortlessly; other days, it feels impossible to create. But The Fourth Agreement reminds me that my best effort today is enough—even if it doesn’t match yesterday’s accomplishments. By embracing the process instead of the outcome, I find joy and fulfillment in the act of creating itself.

The Fourth Agreement as a Daily Habit

The beauty of The Fourth Agreement is that doing your best becomes a habit. When we consistently put in effort, it reinforces positive behaviors. More importantly, it allows us to release self-judgment, guilt, and doubt. Instead of beating ourselves up for what we could have done, we recognize that we did our best given the circumstances.

I strive to do my best in everything I do and feel. The first three agreements—Be impeccable with your word, Don’t take anything personally, and Don’t make assumptions—will only work if you do your best. Don’t expect that you will always be impeccable with your word; just do your best. Don’t expect that you won’t ever take anything personally. Just do your best. Don’t expect that you’ll never make assumptions. Just do your best. The magic happens when you keep showing up and giving your best effort, no matter the circumstances. Over time, you’ll find that these habits weaken and become less frequent.

The Fourth Agreement: Taking Action Without Regret

One of the most powerful lessons from The Fourth Agreement is that taking action is enough. Ruiz explains that when we consistently do our best, we eliminate regret and avoid self-criticism. Whether it’s:

  • Facing new challenges
  • Navigating relationships
  • Pursuing creative passions
  • Overcoming obstacles

…your best effort is always enough.

When you live by The Fourth Agreement, you step into a life of greater peace, fulfillment, and self-acceptance.

Ruiz beautifully reminds us that when we always do our best, we avoid self-judgment and regret. For me, this Agreement isn’t about striving for perfection but about embracing the action itself. Whether I’m tackling technology, interacting with people, or creating something new, as long as I know I’ve given my best effort, I can rest easy. The reward is in the doing, in the commitment to show up fully, no matter what the outcome. And that’s where I find my gratitude—knowing that each day, in every situation, I’m doing the best I can with what I have.

Embrace The Fourth Agreement in Your Life

If you’re ready to integrate The Fourth Agreement into your daily life and explore how it can help you grow spiritually and emotionally, Transformative Coaching provides personalized guidance to support your journey.

At Go Within Spiritual Coaching, we are committed to helping you unlock your true potential through self-awareness, mindset shifts, and transformative practices.

🚀 Are you ready to embrace a life free of regret? Let’s take the first step together! Schedule your complimentary Discovery call today.

The Miracle of Letting Go

The Miracle of Letting Go

by | Oct 23, 2023 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

letting go

A Lesson from Michael Singer’s “The Untethered Soul”

If you haven’t yet explored the profound wisdom of Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul, I strongly recommend you get your hands on a copy. Singer’s insights can open doors to letting go of emotional burdens, bringing a sense of personal freedom and inner peace you may not have thought possible. One of the most powerful chapters in the book is Chapter 9: Removing Your Inner Thorn, which highlights the art of welcoming life’s challenges as opportunities for growth.

In Singer’s view, life’s obstacles—often manifested as emotions like anger,, fear, and envy—can be seen as your inner thorns.. Many of us, myself included, tend to hold onto these struggles, resisting letting go without even realizing that we have a choice. Instead of releasing them, we suppress, deny, or ignore them. It’s like playing a never-ending game of “whack-a-mole”—as soon as we push one problem down, another pops up. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.

However, my perspective on life changed dramatically when I got sober in 2000. It was as if a veil had been lifted, and I suddenly realized that I had choices—real choices. I could continue protecting my problems, or I could let go of them. I chose the latter. By letting go of what no longer served me, I felt free. My metaphorical chains were broken. This solution is simple in theory but challenging in practice. Each issue I released left claw marks all over my psyche, making it clear how deeply I had held onto them.

Now, let me share a miraculous moment in my life that illustrates the true power of letting go.

An Unexpected Lesson in Letting Go

In 2013, the Friday before Labor Day, I had an MRI on my knee to determine if I had a meniscus tear. The results were supposed to be available within 48 hours, but because of the holiday weekend, I wouldn’t receive them until the following Tuesday. By Wednesday, having heard nothing from the doctor’s office, I called to inquire. Silence. The same thing happened on Thursday. By Friday, frustration had set in, and I told the receptionist that I wouldn’t hang up until I spoke to someone.

Finally, the physician assistant (PA) took the call and was surprised—I was supposed to have been contacted already. She quickly located my MRI, confirmed the tear, and recommended surgery. With my insurance set to renew on October 1st, I asked if the procedure could be scheduled sooner. She found an earlier appointment at a different location. “Great, I’ll take it,” I replied, starting to let go of my earlier irritation with the situation.

And here’s where the magic of letting go truly unfolded.

Releasing Frustration and Embracing the Moment

On the morning of my appointment, I arrived at the new location ten minutes early and checked in. As I sat in the waiting room, I started reading Chapter 9: Removing Your Inner Thorn from The Untethered Soul.

Twenty minutes later, the receptionist called me to the desk and said, “What are you doing here, Debbie? Your appointment isn’t until the end of the month.”

Without reacting emotionally, I calmly explained what I had been told. Her response? “Oh, we’ll have to squeeze you in somewhere.”

I sat back down and waited for another thirty-five minutes. But unlike before, I felt no frustration, no irritation—just a deep sense of peace.

For the first time, I realized I wasn’t struggling with an inner thorn. I hadn’t even allowed it to take root in the first place. That, my friends, is the miracle of letting go.

The Power of Letting Go

Letting go isn’t about ignoring problems or suppressing emotions—it’s about releasing the resistance that keeps us stuck. When we stop holding on so tightly, life unfolds naturally.

In the spirit of The Untethered Soul, I leave you with this simple yet profound message:

👉 The power to let go and find inner peace is within your reach.
👉 It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

Are you ready to experience the miracle of letting go?

If you struggle to release what’s holding you back, take the next step by scheduling your complimentary Discovery Session. Together, we’ll create your Personal Roadmap to Confidence and Peace of Mind.

[Content updated from June 21, 2016]

WHAT IS CHAKRA YOGA?

WHAT IS CHAKRA YOGA?

by | Jul 18, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

 

Chakra Yoga

WHAT IS CHAKRA YOGA?

If you are a yoga practitioner, you know that yoga means “yoke” or “union.” Thus, yoga is the practice that aims to join the mind, body, and spirit. The ultimate goal of yoga is to achieve liberation.

Yoga is not a system of beliefs but of techniques and guidance for living a more enhanced life. It is a set of principles for well-being on all levels: physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.

 Yoga works primarily with the energy in the body through the science of pranayama or energy control.  Prana also means ‘breath.’ Yoga teaches how, through breath-control, to still the mind and attain higher states of awareness.

It is not a religion, nor does it come from Hinduism any more than gravity comes from Christianity.

The word Chakra is a Sanskrit word meaning “wheel” or “disk.”  The Chakra System refers to the seven main individual spinning wheels of energy located throughout the body, containing bundles of nerves and major organs and our psychological, emotional, and spiritual states of being. Branded Quote Iyengar

In her book, Chakra Yoga, Anodea Judith states, “As a yoke, the chakra system is a bridge between polarities: heaven and earth, inner and outer, above and below, matter and consciousness, mind and body.”

Yoga is not only a path to higher consciousness; it is also a path for bringing divine energy down into us, ultimately leading us to realize that our inner and outer worlds are one.  The goal of the chakra system is wholeness and integration, and the arrangement of the chakras provides a map for the journey to awakening the Divine within you.

Chakra yoga is more about the inner world than the outer. It is focused more on the subtle energy than on the mechanics of a pose. It embraces the chakras as a profound path to divine awakening within your inner temple, which is what yoga has always been.

A Chakra Yoga workshop is about focusing your yoga practice on the chakras and how to use yoga to access your subtle energy by using postures, pranayama (breath control), mantras, imagery, and meditation. The practice and postures are categorized according to the chakras, although postures for one chakra may help open another. And many poses influence several chakras at once.

The Chakras are:

Root (First) Chakra—Root Support—Earth; Grounding; Poses: The base of every pose but especially relevant to standing poses

Sacral (Second) Chakra—One’s Own Place—Water; Flowing; Poses: Hip openers, forward bends, splits. IMG 0110 1

Solar Plexus (Third) Chakra—Lustrous Gem—Fire; Energy; Poses: Balance, warriors, torso toners. twists, plank

Heart (Fourth) Chakra—Unstruck, Unhurt—Air; Softness; Poses: Chest openers, shoulder openers, breath openers, backbends

Throat (Fifth) Chakra—Purification—Sound; Harmony, truth; Poses: Shoulder openers, stretches, shoulder stands, neck stretches

Third Eye (Sixth) Chakra—Perceive, Command—Light; Radiance; Poses: Sitting, balancing, inversions crown chakra

Crown (Seventh) Chakra—Thousandfold Lotus—Consciousness; Stillness; Poses: Sitting still, Savasana, headstand, inversions in general

The poses start with the Root Chakra and work their way up to the Crown Chakra—this is called Liberating the Chakras. When you liberate the chakras, you can work from the Crown Chakra down through the Root Chakra—this is called Manifesting Through the Chakras—and another workshop altogether.

The point to remember is that you cannot manifest through your chakras until you liberate or balance them.

For more information, schedule your 15-minute Free Assessment today.

ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE? (Part 5)

ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE? (Part 5)

by | Jun 30, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

“ Are You Where You Part 5

manifesting your dreams

Part 1 gave you a few ideas about where to begin your journey from where you are to where you want to be—meditation, setting your intention, clearing out limiting beliefs and blocks, and discovering your life purpose.

In Part 2, you learned that you need to communicate your vision or dream and were given SMART goals to clarify what you need to say by writing them in your journal. You now need to move your idea into the world of relationships.

Part 3 asks you to write down all the things you love about your dream, as well as questions to ask yourself to bring it to fruition successfully. When you create something beautiful, it will attract love.

Part 4 is where the rubber meets the road, so continue to visualize, sit in meditation, and ask for guidance. Here is where you must claim your personal power and use it for a higher purpose. You do this by strengthening your will by following through with what is necessary to move you closer to your dream.

In Part 5, your enthusiasm takes over as you begin to see the results of putting your plan into action, and your passion ignites a fire underneath you that fuels the momentum you need to continue. At this point in the “manifesting your dreams” process, an essential step to truly live the life you want is to take pleasure in everything you’ve done so far.

Going With the Flow in Manifesting Your Dreams

You know, when there’s enthusiasm in a room, it’s contagious. The same is true for your passion—it also ignites others. This is where you have fun and take pleasure in the process. Go With the Flow Sticking with your tasks and projects from the SMART goals you set, you’ve noticed you’ve begun to move, and you see results. And when movement happens, things seem to flow with ease.

But this doesn’t mean sitting back and watching. You want to create a big splash as you swim downstream, so you must get up early and do what needs to be done on your list. Now is not the time to lay back—when there’s momentum going, it’s the time to push. Ask for what you want, and you will attract what you need to make your dream come true. Find a way to make your daily actions fun and pleasurable so you can fuel your passion to the end. You are almost to your destination.

Being, Doing, Having – The Final Steps in Manifesting Your Dreams

Here’s where you’ve gone from being (who you have to be to create your dream) to doing (what you have to do to make it come true) to having (you have your vision in the physical world). To have your dream become a reality requires two commitments. One, you complete each step of the process in body, heart, and mind;  two, you allow the time to achieve your SMART goals, which are both time-based and measurable.

By being the person you need to be and doing the things you need to do, you will have what you want and desire in life. When you complete all the steps, you have brought your vision into physical form, whether it’s a finished book, a new business, or a new home. Your manifestation is complete.

For a deeper understanding on manifesting your dreams with purpose, contact me.

Many of the ideas and steps in this 5-part series, Are You Where You Want to Be in Life?, are drawn from Anodea Judith’s Creating on Purpose: The Spiritual Technology of Manifesting Through the Chakras.

For more information on manifesting your dreams, check out my article Are Your Healing and Manifesting in my article for Brainz Magazine. 

ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE (PART 4)

ARE YOU WHERE YOU WANT TO BE IN LIFE (PART 4)

by | Jun 9, 2019 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

Are You Where You Part 4

SELF IMPROVEMENT STRATEGIES

Part 1 gave you a few ideas about where to begin your journey from where you are to where you want to be—meditation, setting your intention, clearing out limiting beliefs and blocks, and discovering your life purpose.

In Part 2, you learned that you need to communicate your vision or dream and were given SMART goals to clarify what you need to say by writing them in your journal. You now need to move your idea into the world of relationships.

Part 3 asks you to write down all the things you love about your dream, as well as questions to ask yourself to bring it to fruition successfully. When you create something beautiful, it will attract love.

Now, in Part 4, it’s time to put everything into motion. This is where the rubber meets the road—where you strengthen your will, overcome obstacles, and apply self improvement strategies to take decisive action toward your dream.

Why Self Improvement Strategies Matter

To master the manifestation process, you must take charge of your reality and apply self improvement strategies that help you move forward.

  • Don’t wait for the perfect moment—it will never come.
  • If you miss the mark, adjust and try again.
  • Obstacles will arise, but each challenge is an opportunity to strengthen your will.

Self improvement strategies allow you to take action now rather than waiting for the right conditions. They empower you to build resilience, discipline, and the confidence needed to keep moving forward despite difficulties.

Measure Your Personal Power

In your journal, rate yourself on a scale of 1 to 10 in the following:

  • I control and focus my attention.
  • I manage my physical energy during the day.
  • I manage my money, finances, and resources.
  • I keep my word to myself and commit to my daily discipline.
  • I keep my word to others and say when I can’t.
  • I can manage my thoughts, beliefs, and reactions.
  • I am organized in my work and accomplish my goals.

Branded Quote Fire Rumi

Choose the area where your personal power is the weakest and dedicate a certain amount of time to strengthening it—a week, a month, whatever you decide. For instance, if you can’t manage your finances, talk to a financial expert.

Using self improvement strategies to address weaknesses will help you develop self-discipline and take charge of your progress.

The Willpower to Follow Through

To manifest your dream, you need willpower and commitment.

🔥 Willpower is the fuel that drives self improvement strategies.
🔥 To increase your energy, practice breathwork, movement (dance, exercise), or rest.
🔥 Balance is key—too much force can burn out your motivation.

Self improvement strategies help you channel your energy effectively, ensuring that:

  • Your intention (what you want) is clear.
  • Your energy (the drive to take action) is strong.
  • Your willpower (the force that moves you forward) is unshakable.

🔹 Intention ↓ goes down ↓
🔹 Energy ↑ goes up ↑
🔹 They meet—WILL.

When you strengthen your willpower, taking action on your SMART goals becomes easier.

Taking Charge: Just Do It!

Nike said it best: “Just Do It.”

  • If you hit obstacles, keep moving forward—no matter what.
  • Remind yourself of your intention and the “why” behind your dream.
  • Address challenges as they come—don’t let them build up.

🔹 Ask for help, seek feedback, and adapt when needed.
🔹 Push past fear—your desire, energy, and effort will carry you through.
🔹 Be willing to give everything to your dream—because it’s what you truly want.

What’s Next? Bringing It All Together

In Part 5, we’ll tie everything together into a final roadmap for creating the life you truly want.

🚀 Ready to dive deeper into self improvement strategies? Schedule a complimentary 15-Minute Virtual Coffee today!