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Embracing the Wounded Child’s Impact

Embracing the Wounded Child’s Impact

by | Mar 18, 2024 | Blog

 

Embracing the Wounded Child’s Impact

The Wounded Child archetype, nestled within the broader spectrum of the Child archetype, carries profound emotional scars from childhood experiences. For me, these wounds are deeply personal, stemming from moments when my mother’s emotional shutdown from the loss of my baby brother, Michael, left me feeling unseen and invalidated. Anger also manifested within me as I unintentionally wasn’t allowed to grieve. I learned to wear masks, such as the Strong one and the People Pleaser, suppressing my emotions to navigate the world, but beneath those layers lay the wounded inner child, yearning to be acknowledged and healed.

The Cycle of Replaying Trauma: Unhealed wounds from childhood replay themselves in adult life until they are addressed and healed. I had a perpetual need for validation; when I wasn’t seen or had my needs met, I erupted in anger. It continued throughout my adult life, having serious repercussions. It’s crucial to recognize that these patterns are not personal but rather ingrained responses to unresolved trauma.

Moving from Shadow to Light: Recognizing and acknowledging the presence of the wounded child archetype is the first step towards healing. Whether feeling misunderstood or reliving past humiliation events, these patterns can be identified and addressed through self-awareness. By shedding light on these shadow aspects, I began the journey of personal evolution and transformation.

Embracing Compassion and Forgiveness: Despite the pain inflicted by the wounded child archetype, it also awakened a deep sense of compassion and empathy within me. Through the process of getting sober, having had a spiritual awakening, and a commitment to being of service, I moved towards forgiveness and healing. This shift from the shadow to the light allowed for greater self-awareness and empowerment.

Recognizing the Wounded Child Within: Do you resonate with the behaviors associated with the wounded child archetype? Signs may include a constant need for validation, blaming others for past wounds, or seeking love and acceptance externally. Identifying these patterns is the first step toward healing and transformation.

The journey from the shadow of the wounded child archetype to the light of healing and transformation is deeply personal and requires courage. By recognizing our personal experiences and integrating compassion and forgiveness, we can embark on profound healing and personal growth. As we move from the caboose to the engine of our lives, we gain the power to direct our path toward a brighter, more empowered future.

To begin the journey of transformation and healing, schedule your complimentary Discovery call now. Together, we’ll create a path for your next best steps. Start your healing journey today!

 

Navigating New Challenges with Confidence

Navigating New Challenges with Confidence

by | Mar 4, 2024 | Blog

Navigating New Challenges with Confidence

Embarking on a new venture, whether creating, learning, or venturing into uncharted territories, is an exhilarating but challenging experience. Over the past two weeks, I immersed myself in making the inaugural episode of my podcast, “From the Shadow to the Light.” Amidst disappointments and challenges, I’ve gained invaluable insights on navigating the journey from frustration to confidence. Join me as I share this transformative journey.

Creating something new is lined with challenges, and it’s easy to fall into disappointment and frustration. Yet, as I recently experienced while crafting the first episode of “From the Shadow to the Light,” overcoming these obstacles can lead to a profound sense of accomplishment.

Here’s a guide on navigating the journey, ensuring you emerge with newfound confidence in your ability to conquer any task you set your mind to.

Embrace the Learning Curve: Embarking on a podcasting journey or anything new is stepping into the unknown. Embrace the learning curve, recognizing that every challenge is an opportunity to acquire new skills and knowledge.

Convert Disappointment into Determination: Frustration is inevitable, especially when things don’t go as planned. Instead of dwelling on disappointment, channel that energy into determination. Use setbacks as stepping stones for improvement, acknowledging that growth often arises from overcoming obstacles.

Seek Guidance and Support: Podcasting, like life, is a collaborative effort. When faced with challenges, seek guidance. Reach out to mentors, join communities, or seek online forums where you can share experiences and gather insights. Knowing you’re not alone in your struggles can be a powerful motivator.

Shift Your Perspective on Problems: Problems are not roadblocks; they are opportunities to shift your perspective. When faced with challenges, view them as puzzles to solve rather than insurmountable barriers. This shift in mindset can turn problems into catalysts for creativity.

Break Down the Task: Overwhelm often contributes to the desire to give up. Break down your creation into smaller, more manageable tasks. Celebrate small victories as you go, recognizing that progress is achieved one step at a time.

Learn from Mistakes: Mistakes are not failures but lessons in disguise. Analyze what went wrong, understand the root causes, and use this knowledge to avoid similar pitfalls in the future. Every misstep is an opportunity for growth.

Celebrate Achievements, Big and Small: Amid challenges, take a moment to celebrate achievements, no matter how small. Recognizing your progress fuels a positive mindset and instills confidence that you’re on the right path.

The journey from frustration to confidence is transformative. As I navigated the complexities of crafting my podcast’s first episode, I learned to appreciate the resilience I gained from facing challenges head-on and the importance of shifting my perspective on problems. Remember, with determination and the right mindset, you can overcome any challenge and emerge more confident on the other side.

If you have trouble walking through these steps to get to the other side, schedule your complimentary 1-hour Discovery call for your next best steps and roadmap.

It’s my honor to create a plan with you that leads to a higher version of yourself.

And, if you’d like to listen to “From the Shadow to the Light,” where you can hear firsthand how perseverance led to creating something meaningful, please email me or text 302-229-3446. I’d be delighted to send it to you.


				
					

			
					


											
								

Transforming Disappointment Into Confidence

							
					
															
Transforming Disappointment Into Confidence

					
					
 by  | Feb 21, 2024 | Blog







Transforming Disappointment Into Confidence


Life often unfolds in unexpected ways. Recently, I found myself facing rejection, a scenario that in the past would have triggered disappointment, frustration, and even anger. Yet, today, as someone with 23 years of sobriety and a trauma-informed coach, I stand here with a shifted perspective – a realization that nothing in life is truly personal. Even in moments that seem like personal attacks, there lies an opportunity for transformation toward confidence and peace of mind.


In the face of disappointment, anger, and frustration, the path to confidence and peace of mind begins with acknowledging these emotions. It’s a crucial step in the journey, allowing us to embrace our feelings without judgment. It is fundamental to the understanding that nothing in life is truly personal—a universal dance we all partake in.


Setting a Positive Intention: Rather than internalizing rejection, set a positive intention for yourself. Envision the person you aspire to become, recognizing that setbacks are not personal affronts but growth opportunities.


Reflecting on Patterns: Exploring behavior patterns unveils insights into how we respond to rejection. Understanding these automatic responses becomes a pivotal shift, reminding us that our reactions are not personal flaws but learned responses.


Mindful Responding: Mastering mindful responding involves stepping back from the impulse to react. Observe thoughts and feelings without taking them personally, choosing responses aligned with your positive intention.


Learning from the Experience: In the grand scheme of life’s tapestry, every experience holds lessons. Question the existing paradigm without internalizing the rejection. What lessons does this experience hold? How can it positively shape your beliefs? Extract wisdom from the situation, acknowledging that the lessons are not criticisms of your worth.


Adopting a Growth Mindset: Experiment with adopting a growth mindset. Picture yourself confidently navigating challenges, recognizing that your ability to overcome setbacks is not a reflection of personal inadequacy but a testament to your resilience.


Embracing Change: Life is an ever-evolving journey, and embracing change is vital to renewal. Form habits aligned with your positive intention, stepping into a confident and peaceful version of yourself, knowing that growth is not a judgment but a natural progression.


The journey through disappointment, anger, and frustration is a transformative dance; in this dance, remember that nothing is personal. Every emotion, setback, and lesson contributes to the beauty of your unique journey. As a coach, I encourage you to view these moments as opportunities for growth, recognizing that in the grand tapestry of life, your worth is never defined by external circumstances. Embrace confidence and peace of mind as natural outcomes of navigating life’s unpredictable twists with the understanding that, in the end, nothing in life is genuinely personal.


Schedule your free Discovery call today to learn how you can transform your disappointment into authentic confidence while knowing that nothing is personal. Take bold action, walk through your fear, and schedule it now.


The rest of your life depends on it—and so does the world!

				
					

			
					


											
								

Keeping Your Word To Yourself

							
					
															
Keeping Your Word To Yourself

					
					
 by  | Feb 6, 2024 | Blog























DO YOU KEEP YOUR WORD TO YOURSELF?


Today, I am thrilled to share a piece that has emerged from the very core of my being — a blog post that delves into the intricate layers of “Embracing the Power of Keeping Your Word to Yourself.”


Rooted in my 23 years of sobriety and the shadows explored in my memoir, “Struck by Lightning: My Journey from the Shadow to the Light,” this concept transcends the surface of commitments. It’s a pilgrimage into the essence of reclaiming our confident selves.


HERE’S WHAT I I’VE EXPERIENCED AND LEARNED WHEN EMBRACING THE DEPTHS of my inner world by delving into the complexities and challenges of personal growth and self-discovery. It’s about exploring the intricacies of our thoughts, behaviors, and emotional patterns, particularly in keeping promises to ourselves. The “depths” represent the various layers of our inner selves, including both the positive aspects of growth and the challenges associated with self-betrayal or unfulfilled promises. The journey involves navigating these depths to foster personal development and a more profound connection with oneself.


Building Trust with Yourself: Keeping promises is like building trust with yourself. It shows that you can rely on your own word, creating a stronger connection with your inner self. Trust, delicate and profound, is woven through the commitment to oneself. Fulfilling promises becomes sacred, strengthening the unspoken bond with your inner self. This trust serves as a guiding light, illuminating the path of self-discovery.


Boosting Confidence: When you keep your promises, it boosts your confidence. It’s like telling yourself, “I can do this!” and becoming more self-assured in the beautiful journey of life. Confidence isn’t just a fleeting emotion; it’s a reservoir of inner strength. Each promise kept conveys resilience, embracing your authentic self as you unravel the threads of your journey, life weaving together moments of joy, adversity, and growth. This reservoir becomes a source of courage during life’s inevitable challenges.


Aligning with Your Values: Promises are like actions that show your values. It’s about doing things that match your beliefs, creating a sense of purpose and fulfillment in your life. Promises echo our values, resonating through our choices. It’s a deliberate dance with authenticity, a conscious step into the rhythm of our core beliefs. This alignment creates a harmonious symphony, fostering a sense of purpose and fulfillment.


HERE’S WHAT I’VE EXPERIENCED AND LEARNED ABOUT NAVIGATING THE DEPTHS of the process of dealing with the challenges and complexities that arise when promises to oneself are not kept. I confronted issues like self-betrayal, stagnation, and the toll on well-being. The term emphasizes the journey of understanding and addressing these challenges, unraveling the stagnation, mitigating the emotional toll, and ultimately navigating the paradox of moving forward while acknowledging when I was wrong. It’s about actively engaging with and overcoming the obstacles that may arise on the path to personal growth and self-discovery.


Confronting Self-Betrayal: Not keeping promises can feel like betraying yourself. It’s like losing a part of who you are. Confronting self-betrayal means finding those lost pieces and bringing them back. It’s a journey into the shadows, where broken commitments signal a departure from the sanctuary of self-love and trust. Confronting self-betrayal becomes an invitation to reclaim lost parts of oneself.


Unraveling Stagnation: It’s like being stuck in one place when promises are broken. Stagnation becomes familiar, and the desire to grow feels far away. Unraveling stagnation means having the courage to move forward into new and exciting parts of your life. Broken promises act as anchors, keeping us tethered to the shores of the past. Stagnation becomes a familiar landscape, and the yearning for growth becomes a distant echo. Unraveling stagnation involves the courage to cut the anchors and set sail into the uncharted waters of personal evolution.


Mitigating the Toll on Well-Being: Not keeping promises can affect your feelings. Stress and anxiety become companions, casting shadows on our mental and emotional landscape. The toll on well-being is profound. The dissonance between aspirations and actions creates a symphony of unrest within. Mitigating this toll means finding things that make you feel good, mentally and emotionally.


How do you navigate the delicate dance of keeping promises to yourself, and what revelations have you unearthed in the process?


I encourage you to schedule a complimentary Discovery Call where you receive your personal roadmap showing you the next best steps to take to start keeping your word to yourself. It’s the beginning of learning to step into your confidence to be the person you were born to be. 


You need it. 


The world needs it.


 


 












 

















































				
					

			
					


											
								

Shadow Spiritual Work: 5 Powerful Steps to Overcome Disappointment & Judgment

							
					
															
Shadow Spiritual Work: 5 Powerful Steps to Overcome Disappointment & Judgment

					
					
 by  | Jan 12, 2024 | Blog, Shadow Work

				
				
				
				
				
				
				

				

				
				
				
				
				

				
				
				
				
				

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Embarking on my journey of personal and spiritual growth, I’ve come to realize that shadow spiritual work is one of the most profound paths to self-discovery. Rooted in deep self-exploration, it helps uncover and integrate the spiritual shadow, allowing me to release judgment, heal past wounds, and step into a greater sense of confidence and inner peace.


But what is shadow work spiritual, and why does it hold such transformative power? In essence, spiritual shadow work is the process of facing the hidden aspects of ourselves—those parts that have been suppressed, rejected, or ignored due to conditioning, fear, or past trauma. By bringing these aspects into the light, I begin a journey of healing, self-acceptance, and transformation.




Understanding My Spiritual Shadow


Before I could begin true healing, I had to recognize my spiritual shadow—the aspects of my personality and emotions that I had suppressed over time. Coined by Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung, the shadow self represents the unconscious parts of ourselves that we often deny.


In my personal journey, I discovered that my spiritual shadow contained unresolved emotions from childhood, self-doubt, fear of failure, and perfectionist tendencies. I had unknowingly buried these emotions, believing they were weaknesses. However, through shadow spiritual work, I began to see them for what they truly were—opportunities for deep transformation and self-awareness.




Step 1: Illuminating My Shadows


The first step in shadow spiritual work is self-awareness. To heal, I needed to confront the memories, emotions, and fears that I had long ignored.


I reflected on moments that triggered feelings of inadequacy—like the time I messed up lines in a school play, dropped the baton in a relay race, or received harsh criticism. These experiences shaped my spiritual shadow, leading me to suppress feelings of shame and fear.


Bringing these hidden emotions into my awareness was uncomfortable, but it was also the beginning of my transformation.




Step 2: Embracing the Depths Within


Rather than resisting my spiritual shadow, I began to accept it as part of me. I stopped judging myself for past mistakes and instead recognized these experiences as valuable lessons.


What is shadow work spiritual in practice? It’s about acknowledging the darker parts of myself without self-judgment. Everyone carries a shadow spiritual aspect, and embracing it fosters self-compassion.


Through this process, I learned that my fears and insecurities were not flaws—they were wounds that needed healing.




Step 3: Healing Past Wounds and Traumas


Many of the judgments I placed on myself stemmed from unresolved emotional wounds. Past failures, disappointments, and societal expectations had created deep-seated beliefs that I wasn’t good enough.


By engaging in spiritual shadow work, I began to revisit these past wounds, allowing myself to process them with understanding and grace. This wasn’t an easy process, and at times, I needed the guidance of a coach or mentor to navigate the deeper emotional layers.


Whether it was recovering from job losses, failed relationships, or personal struggles, shadow spiritual healing helped me see my experiences as stepping stones rather than setbacks.




Step 4: Integrating My Shadow for True Transformation


Integration is a crucial part of shadow spiritual work. Rather than keeping my past wounds in the dark, I learned to incorporate them into my conscious awareness.


I began to ask myself:


    

  • What strengths have emerged from my struggles?
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  • How can I use past challenges to fuel my personal growth?
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  • What wisdom has my spiritual shadow given me?
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By answering these questions, I realized that my shadow was not something to fear—it was a source of wisdom and resilience. True spiritual growth comes from integrating all aspects of ourselves, including the ones we once rejected.




Step 5: Cultivating Self-Compassion and Inner Peace


Shadow Work is not about self-condemnation—it’s about self-acceptance. Throughout my journey, I learned that healing requires kindness toward oneself.


I incorporated daily mindfulness meditation, journaling, and breathwork to nurture self-compassion. These practices helped me shift from self-criticism to self-love, allowing me to embrace my spiritual shadow with understanding rather than fear.


By doing this, I not only healed past wounds but also gained clarity, confidence, and a deep sense of peace.




Why Shadow Spiritual Work Is Life-Changing


Engaging in shadow spiritual work has been one of the most profound transformations of my life. By embracing my spiritual shadow, I’ve been able to:


    

  • Release self-judgment and limiting beliefs
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  • Strengthen my intuition and emotional resilience
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  • Heal past wounds and break free from destructive patterns
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  • Step into self-empowerment and authenticity
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Most importantly, I’ve learned that spiritual shadow work is not about eliminating parts of myself—it’s about embracing all of me with love and acceptance.




Are You Ready to Reclaim Your Confidence & Inner Peace?


Embarking on shadow spiritual work is a courageous journey into self-discovery, healing, and transformation. By facing and integrating your spiritual shadow, you unlock greater self-awareness, emotional freedom, and personal empowerment.


If you’re ready to begin this transformative journey, Go Within Spiritual Coaching offers a 6-week online course, Say Hello to Your Shadow Fears, designed to:


    

  • Help you identify and embrace your spiritual shadow
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  • Transform limiting beliefs into strengths
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  • Heal emotional wounds and cultivate self-compassion
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  • Step into confidence and authenticity
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Your shadow holds the key to your greatest growth. Are you ready to unlock it?


👉 Schedule Your Complimentary Discovery Call Today!

















































			

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Breaking the Chains of Codependency

							
					
															
Breaking the Chains of Codependency

					
					
 by  | Dec 11, 2023 | Blog




Breaking the Chains of Codependency


Let’s begin a conversation about a topic that might resonate deeply with many of us—codependency. It’s an insidious force, often lurking in the shadows, yet its impact can etch deep scars on the fabric of our lives.


Reflecting on my personal journey, the roots of my codependency were intricately entwined with a persistent sense of invalidation, a kind of “silent abuse” that may have been part of your story, too. Have you ever felt the sting of being ignored, dismissed, or having your feelings cast aside? I certainly have. In my formative years, it felt as if my emotions were invisible—no one bothered to inquire about how I felt. Little did I know, this early experience became the fertile ground for the seeds of codependency that would later manifest in my life.


Navigating the complexities of this silent predator, I began to unravel the delicate dance between childhood trauma and codependency. The echoes of unmet emotional needs reverberated through my adult life, creating the need for constant external approval and validation. It became a pattern—a dance where I poured my energy into meeting the needs of others, all the while neglecting my own.


Signs of Codependency and Childhood Trauma:


Excessive People-Pleasing: The difficulty in uttering the word ‘no’ may be traced back to a history where your own happiness was intricately woven into making others happy. This pattern often finds its roots in childhood experiences of neglect, where your well-being relies on meeting the needs of others.


Poor Boundaries: Struggling to set and maintain boundaries could be a continuation of blurred lines from childhood, where the distinctions between self and others were unclear. Recognizing and reshaping these boundaries becomes crucial in breaking free from the dance.


Fear of Abandonment: Deep-seated fears of being alone can be linked back to childhood experiences of abandonment, propelling codependent behaviors to avoid revisiting that profound pain. Addressing this fear is a crucial step in untangling the web of codependency and childhood trauma.


Low Self-Esteem: A pervasive lack of self-worth, often observed in codependency, frequently originates in childhood trauma where adequate validation and support are lacking. Rebuilding self-esteem involves acknowledging these roots and actively working towards self-validation.


Fixation on Others: Constantly focusing on others’ needs, problems, and behaviors while neglecting your own might have developed as a coping mechanism in response to childhood trauma. Recognizing and redirecting this fixation is a pivotal step toward breaking free.









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Ways to Break Free


Learn to Say ‘No’: Practice setting limits and saying ‘No‘ when necessary. Understand that your difficulty with saying ‘no’ might be linked to childhood experiences, and work on building the skill of assertiveness.


Set Healthy Boundaries: Practice saying ‘No‘ and redefine your relationship boundaries. Recognize that childhood experiences might have influenced your boundary-setting skills, and actively work on redefining and reinforcing them.


Challenge Negative Beliefs: Identify and challenge negative beliefs about yourself that fuel codependency, recognizing their deep roots in childhood trauma. Replace these beliefs with affirming and empowering thoughts to reshape your self-perception.


If this narrative echoes your own, if you find yourself entangled in a similar dance, know that you are not alone. I invite you to reach out and schedule a confidential “What’s Next For Me?” call. Together, we can explore the roots of your struggles and craft a personalized plan for your next best steps. You don’t have to endure another minute of this silent struggle. Take action now, and let’s embark on a transformative journey toward healing, self-discovery, and the courage to break free from the patterns of the past.


Schedule your “What’s Next For Me?” call NOW!