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Surrendering: Embracing the Power of Letting Go

Surrendering: Embracing the Power of Letting Go

by | Nov 13, 2024 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

Power of letting go

Surrendering: Embracing the Power of Letting Go

Letting go is one of the most challenging yet transformative experiences we can have in life. We often cling to control, fearing the unknown, but true peace comes when we learn to surrender. The power of letting go allows us to release resistance, trust the process, and embrace life as it unfolds.

If you’re seeking deeper personal transformation, learning to let go is an essential step. Transformative Coaching can help you navigate this journey by providing the tools and support you need to release what’s holding you back and step into a more empowered version of yourself.

Understanding the Power of Letting Go

We all encounter moments where holding on feels safer than releasing. But in reality, the power of letting go is what frees us from emotional burdens, fear, and self-imposed limitations. When we surrender, we open ourselves to new possibilities, healing, and a deeper connection with our true selves.

Surrendering doesn’t mean giving up—it means choosing faith over fear, allowing life to flow instead of forcing outcomes.

Why Is Surrender So Challenging?

As humans, we’re wired to seek security and control. We want to protect ourselves from pain and uncertainty, so we cling tightly to things we feel we can influence. Surrendering often means loosening our grip on our deeply held beliefs and releasing old patterns that no longer serve us. Letting go is intimidating because it requires us to step into the unknown, trusting that there is wisdom in the process even if we can’t see it yet.

Signs You Need to Embrace the Power of Letting Go

If you resonate with any of these, it may be time to practice the power of letting go:

  • You feel stuck in the past, replaying old memories or regrets.
  • Fear of uncertainty keeps you from moving forward.
  • You struggle with perfectionism and the need to control everything.
  • Holding onto resentment or anger is draining your energy.
  • Anxiety about the future is keeping you from enjoying the present.

Acknowledging these signs is the first step toward release. Letting go brings emotional freedom and a sense of inner peace.

6 Steps to Unlock the Power of Letting Go

  1. Identify What You’re Holding Onto
    The first step in surrendering is recognizing what you resist or try to control. Maybe it’s a past hurt, a challenging relationship, or a need to be perfect. Name it, bring it to your awareness, and be honest about how it’s impacting your life.
  2. Acknowledge Your Desire for Control
    Accept that the desire for control is natural. Reflect on how attempting to control everything might be limiting you, adding stress, or even causing pain. Understand that letting go doesn’t mean you’re powerless; it means allowing space for greater strength to emerge.
  3. Embrace the Power of Faith
    Whether you find faith in God, the universe, or your inner wisdom, trusting in something greater than yourself is essential. In moments of fear or frustration, remind yourself that there is a purpose beyond your immediate understanding. Surrendering is an act of faith—a belief that even in uncertainty, there is guidance.
  4. Practice Letting Go in Small Ways
    Surrender doesn’t have to start with life’s most significant issues. Begin with something small, like letting go of the need to control an outcome in a minor situation. Observe the relief it brings and use this as a stepping stone for larger moments of surrender.
  5. Shift from Reaction to Response
    Instead of reacting with anxiety or frustration when things don’t go as planned, pause, breathe, and consciously respond. Ask yourself: “How can I see this differently?” or “What is the lesson in this for me?” Surrender involves moving away from a reactive state and into a place of observation and acceptance.
  6. Create a Ritual of Release
    Rituals can be powerful in letting go. Write down your worries, fears, or things you can’t control, and then release them—burn the paper, bury it, or throw it away. Physically releasing these items can bring a sense of freedom and lightness.

What Happens When You Surrender

When you choose to surrender (and it is a choice), you allow yourself to move from resistance to acceptance. This shift creates a space for clarity, healing, and new perspectives to emerge. The very act of letting go can feel like lifting a heavy burden, opening the door to peace, joy, and greater resilience.

In my journey, I experienced a moment of surrender that transformed everything. After struggling and resisting the need for help, I reached a point where I could no longer keep up the fight. That moment of surrender was like a gift, an unexpected clarity, and peace that washed over me. I then understood surrender not as a loss but as an invitation to allow grace to guide my steps forward. I was no longer carrying the weight of my burdens alone.

When we surrender, we align with our higher self and invite miracles into our lives. Healing begins not because we have forced it but because we have allowed space for it to unfold naturally. We start seeing signs, receiving insights, and feeling supported in ways we couldn’t have imagined.

Surrendering is not a single act but a practice, a choice we make every day to trust the journey we are on. It’s a profound transformation that teaches us that even in our darkest moments, we are never truly alone.

Final Thoughts: Embrace the Power of Letting Go

If you’re struggling with the idea of surrender, start by simply being open to it. Know that surrendering is not a sign of weakness but of immense strength. It’s the courage to let go and trust that, in doing so, we open ourselves to a life of greater peace, wisdom, and healing.

Surrender may feel like stepping into the unknown, but it is often there, in the depths of our vulnerability, that we find our truest strength. So, breathe, trust, and allow yourself the grace to let go. The path forward might surprise you, bringing growth, peace, and possibilities beyond your imagination.

If you’re ready to experience the power of letting go on a deeper level, Transformative Coaching can help guide you through the process. Let go of what no longer serves you and step into your highest self today.

If you’re holding onto something and want to let it go but can’t, schedule your complimentary Discovery call. Together, we’ll plan the first steps for you to let it go.

🚀 Now is the perfect time to embrace this transformation—because the best version of you is waiting on the other side of letting go.

The Miracle of Letting Go

The Miracle of Letting Go

by | Oct 23, 2023 | Blog, Transformative Coaching

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A Lesson from Michael Singer’s “The Untethered Soul”

If you haven’t yet explored the profound wisdom of Michael Singer’s The Untethered Soul, I strongly recommend you get your hands on a copy. Singer’s insights can open doors to letting go of emotional burdens, bringing a sense of personal freedom and inner peace you may not have thought possible. One of the most powerful chapters in the book is Chapter 9: Removing Your Inner Thorn, which highlights the art of welcoming life’s challenges as opportunities for growth.

In Singer’s view, life’s obstacles—often manifested as emotions like anger,, fear, and envy—can be seen as your inner thorns.. Many of us, myself included, tend to hold onto these struggles, resisting letting go without even realizing that we have a choice. Instead of releasing them, we suppress, deny, or ignore them. It’s like playing a never-ending game of “whack-a-mole”—as soon as we push one problem down, another pops up. If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.

However, my perspective on life changed dramatically when I got sober in 2000. It was as if a veil had been lifted, and I suddenly realized that I had choices—real choices. I could continue protecting my problems, or I could let go of them. I chose the latter. By letting go of what no longer served me, I felt free. My metaphorical chains were broken. This solution is simple in theory but challenging in practice. Each issue I released left claw marks all over my psyche, making it clear how deeply I had held onto them.

Now, let me share a miraculous moment in my life that illustrates the true power of letting go.

An Unexpected Lesson in Letting Go

In 2013, the Friday before Labor Day, I had an MRI on my knee to determine if I had a meniscus tear. The results were supposed to be available within 48 hours, but because of the holiday weekend, I wouldn’t receive them until the following Tuesday. By Wednesday, having heard nothing from the doctor’s office, I called to inquire. Silence. The same thing happened on Thursday. By Friday, frustration had set in, and I told the receptionist that I wouldn’t hang up until I spoke to someone.

Finally, the physician assistant (PA) took the call and was surprised—I was supposed to have been contacted already. She quickly located my MRI, confirmed the tear, and recommended surgery. With my insurance set to renew on October 1st, I asked if the procedure could be scheduled sooner. She found an earlier appointment at a different location. “Great, I’ll take it,” I replied, starting to let go of my earlier irritation with the situation.

And here’s where the magic of letting go truly unfolded.

Releasing Frustration and Embracing the Moment

On the morning of my appointment, I arrived at the new location ten minutes early and checked in. As I sat in the waiting room, I started reading Chapter 9: Removing Your Inner Thorn from The Untethered Soul.

Twenty minutes later, the receptionist called me to the desk and said, “What are you doing here, Debbie? Your appointment isn’t until the end of the month.”

Without reacting emotionally, I calmly explained what I had been told. Her response? “Oh, we’ll have to squeeze you in somewhere.”

I sat back down and waited for another thirty-five minutes. But unlike before, I felt no frustration, no irritation—just a deep sense of peace.

For the first time, I realized I wasn’t struggling with an inner thorn. I hadn’t even allowed it to take root in the first place. That, my friends, is the miracle of letting go.

The Power of Letting Go

Letting go isn’t about ignoring problems or suppressing emotions—it’s about releasing the resistance that keeps us stuck. When we stop holding on so tightly, life unfolds naturally.

In the spirit of The Untethered Soul, I leave you with this simple yet profound message:

👉 The power to let go and find inner peace is within your reach.
👉 It’s not always easy, but it’s always worth it.

Are you ready to experience the miracle of letting go?

If you struggle to release what’s holding you back, take the next step by scheduling your complimentary Discovery Session. Together, we’ll create your Personal Roadmap to Confidence and Peace of Mind.

[Content updated from June 21, 2016]

Do You Have an Inner Thorn that Needs Removing?

Do You Have an Inner Thorn that Needs Removing?

by | Jun 21, 2016 | Blog

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If you haven’t read Michael Singer’s “The Untethered Soul” yet, do yourself a favor and go buy the book; that is, if you want personal freedom and inner peace. Singer takes you on a journey that is easy to understand, yet is profound in many ways. One of my favorite chapters is Chapter 9: Removing Your Inner Thorn, which is about welcoming life’s challenges and seeing them as opportunities for growth.untetheredsoul

Life’s obstacles can be viewed as “your inner thorns” and may include anger, fear, envy, and more. In my own life, I held onto these issues for a very long time, never being aware I had a choice. In fact, all I knew was that I “protected” them by altering my behavior so they would not be so painful. Many times, that meant pushing them down, denying they even existed, even though they were ever so present in my life. It was like playing the boardwalk game “whack-a-mole”, where I would bop one problem down only to see another pop-up. This was a recurring theme in my life. Have you had this happen?clawmarks

When I got sober in 2000, the veil was lifted, leaving me cognizant I had choices. I had choices!  This meant I could keep protecting my problems or I could remove them. Choosing the latter, I simply let them go. By not holding to anything that weighed me down, I was now free. My chords were cut. Although this is a simple solution, it is not easy! Everything I let go of in my life had claw marks all over it.

One day, as I was sitting in my orthopedic doctor’s office, a miracle occurred.  Let me give you the background.

The Friday before Labor Day, 2013, I had an MRI of my knee to rule in/out a meniscus tear. The results were available in 48 hours, but since it was a holiday weekend I wouldn’t be informed until the following Tuesday. By Wednesday, after not hearing from the doctor’s office, I called asking for the outcome. Since no one was able to come to the phone, I left a message. The same thing happened on Thursday. By Friday I was thoroughly irritated and I told the receptionist I was staying on the phone until I spoke to someone. The PA took the call and was surprised because she told her assistant to call me to find out where the MRI was taken. When I informed her of the location, she promised to call me right back. Within twenty minutes she was on the phone telling me a tear was present and I needed surgery.

Since my insurance was to be renewed October 1st, and knowing I had an appointment at the end of the month, I asked if it could be rescheduled for an earlier time, allowing sufficient time to schedule the operation. The PA told me there was an opening at 9 am that Monday, but at a different location. “Great, I’ll take it”, I told her and was beginning to let go of my earlier agitation at the staff’s ineptitude. thorn

Scenario: I arrive at the new location at 8:50 am and check-in a full ten minutes early. As I sat down to wait, I began reading Chapter 9: “Removing Your Inner Thorn”. Twenty minutes later, the receptionist called me upfront and asked, “What are you doing here? Your appointment isn’t until the end of the month.” Without any emotion, I related what I was told, and her reply was, “Oh, we’ll have to squeeze you in here somewhere.”

As I sat down and waited another thirty-five minutes, there was no angst within me at all. I just watched as the spectacle, the angst, just passed me by. I didn’t have to remove my inner thorn, because I never allowed the thorn to come in, in the first place. Now that, my friends, is a true miracle!

Namaste!
Debbie

4 STEPS TO LETTING GO OF RESENTMENT

4 STEPS TO LETTING GO OF RESENTMENT

by | Jun 1, 2016 | Blog

 

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FOUR STEPS TO LETTING GO OF RESENTMENT

Have you ever held onto anger when you’ve been cut off by another car? I have, and it wasn’t a pretty sight. My stomach would knot, my chest felt like it was about to explode, and I would bless the driver with my middle finger. It was a personal attack on me. So personal, I  knew they planned to cut me, Debbie Gill, off, on Friday, August 13, 1999, at the on-ramp of Rte. 1 and I-95  precisely at 4:46 pm! The anger and resentment overflowed within me. As a result, I took my rage out on unsuspecting and undeserving people, such as my partner, friends, and parents.

There are many other ways I cultivated resentments: having expectations, trying to control others and not being able to, and being betrayed by a lover or spouse, to name a few.Expectations framed Needless to say, I wasn’t a pleasant person to be around. It wasn’t until the following year, when, after an 8-month relapse, that I understood the meaning of an expression from AA (not Buddha, as most people think), “Resentment is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” The quote I love the most is, “Resentment is when you’re an asshole in a bad neighborhood!” You resend the hurt over and over, the story gets bigger and bigger, and the “offender” has no clue; they’re off somewhere in the world having a great time! Now tell me, who’s hurting who?

Let Go Resentment

How did I let go of the anger and resentment? It wasn’t easy and may take time, but be patient with yourself. The following steps are the ones I took to overcome this significant barrier to peace and serenity:

Step 1. Follow Step 3 in the AA 12-step program: “Made a decision to turn our will and our life over to care of God as I understand Him.” This step is a biggie, but it is the cornerstone of my “letting go.”  “Let go and let God.”

Step 2. Realize you have a choice: hold onto the anger and resentment, ruminating about it, or release it by reflecting on why someone may have wronged you; sit with the hurt so you can then choose to forgive. Think of several redeeming qualities the person who harmed you has.

Step 3. There’s a wise story in the back called “Freedom From Bondage in the Big Book of AA.” A profound betrayal deeply wounded me, so much I wanted revenge. My sponsor told me to read this story. The gist of it is: “Get down on your knees and pray for that person – even if you don’t mean it. Do this every morning and night for two weeks,” and the resentment will begin to recede, which leads to:

Step 4. Forgiveness. You choose to forgive the other person, not for them, nor condone what they did. But forgiveness is necessary for you to open your heart to love again. And my dear friend, love is all we need.

 

To learn more about how you can let go of resentments, schedule a free 15-minute assessment today!

Debbie