Finding Motivation in the Midst of Summer: Tips to Beat the Heat and Get Things Done
As we step into the heat of the summer, especially after holiday celebrations, finding the motivation to keep pushing forward can be tough. Whether it’s the overwhelming heat, a packed schedule, or the post-holiday slowdown, we all feel the mid-summer slump at some point. Recently, I had the pleasure of interviewing Caroline Myss, which was incredibly inspiring. Yet, even with such high moments, I find myself needing to reignite my drive during these lazy, hazy days.
Here are some practical tips to help you do just that:
Start Small: In the aftermath of my interview with Caroline Myss, I’ve been reminded that small actions can lead to significant momentum and the biggest shifts in our energy and outlook. Start with something minimal and manageable—like organizing your desk or jotting down a few lines for your next project. Small wins build momentum. I’m breaking down the editing of the recording of our conversation into 10-minute segments.
Change Your Environment: If the summer heat is zapping your energy, try making your workspace more inviting. Adjust the lighting and temperature, and perhaps introduce a fan or an air conditioner. A comfortable environment can significantly enhance your productivity. I shut the shades and brought in the Dyson heating/cooling fan I was gifted to make my office comfortable, as it tends to get very warm on the second floor.
Set a Timer: The Pomodoro Techniqueis perfect for maintaining focus and efficiency. Work in short bursts of 25 minutes, followed by a 5-minute break. This method helps you stay on track without feeling overwhelmed, which has been especially useful as I tackle editing my interview with Caroline.
Visualize Your Success: Close your eyes and imagine completing your tasks.Visualizing the outcomecan be a powerful motivator, filling you with a rush of enthusiasm to make that vision a reality. I did this and succeeded in attaining the interview with Caroline for my podcast. She even endorses my book on it!
Connect with Your ‘Why’: Remind yourself why your work matters. Connecting with the purpose behind your tasks can reignite your passion and propel you forward. My interview with Caroline Myss deepened my understanding of this, as sharing such powerful insights really impacts others. I want to create a community for healing trauma and addiction.
Life often throws us curves that can derail our plans and sap our motivation. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed, but it’s important to devise a strategy to move forward. To learn more about finding the motivation inside you that may be sleeping or to connect with your Why, schedule a 60-minute complimentary Discovery calltoday. Together, we’ll wake it up so you can live your best life as the person you were born to be.
Embracing the Breakdown: The Precursor to Breakthrough
In the journey of personal transformation and healing, we often hear about the glorious breakthroughs—those moments of clarity and empowerment that propel us forward. However, what’s less discussed, yet equally significant, is the breakdown that often precedes the breakthrough. This concept is vividly explored in Chapter 10 of my book, “Struck by Lightning: My Journey from the Shadow to the Light,” where I delve into the depths of my darkest moments and how they set the stage for profound change. This theme is also the focus of Episode 10 of my podcast, “From the Shadow to the Light.”
The Breakdown: A Crucible of Change
Before I experienced my breakthrough, I went through a period that can only be described as a complete breakdown. I was unable to be intimate with my soon-to-be husband, Uwe, which was a source of immense emotional turmoil. This inability was deeply rooted in unresolved sexual trauma from my past, which I had not fully confronted or healed.
This breakdown was not a sign of failure but rather a necessary process. It was as if the old structures of my life needed to collapse to make way for something new and more authentic. In this crucible of change, I was stripped of my defenses, forced to face my shadows, and prepared for future transformation.
The Role of Faith and Surrender
During these dark times, my faith in God was my anchor. Sometimes, the only thing standing between me and a relapse was my unwavering belief that there was a purpose behind my pain. Despite the immense pressure, I did not turn back to alcohol—a testament to the inner strength that was being forged in the fire of my breakdown.
Surrendering to this process was not easy. It required me to let go of my need for control and trust that something greater was at work. This surrender was not about giving up but giving in to the transformative power of the breakdown. It was about allowing myself to be reshaped and redefined.
The Breakthrough: Healing Sexual Trauma
The breakthrough was like a breath of fresh air when it finally came. It didn’t happen overnight, but gradually, as I embraced the lessons of my breakdown. I sought therapy and enrolled in a 6-week sexual trauma healing course that significantly changed my life. This process of healing allowed me to confront and release the deep-seated trauma that had been hindering my ability to form intimate connections.
In this new dawn, I found clarity and purpose. The shadows that once seemed so daunting became sources of strength and wisdom. I realized that the breakdown had not destroyed me; it had dismantled the false constructs of my identity, allowing my true self to emerge.
Reflections and Insights
Reflecting on this journey, I now understand that the breakdown was essential to my transformation. It taught me resilience, humility, and the importance of inner work. It also underscored the significance of support systems—my faith, therapy, and the teachings of mentors like Caroline Myss, who have profoundly influenced my path.
To anyone going through a similar experience, remember that your breakdown is not the end. It is a necessary step toward your breakthrough. Embrace it, learn from it, and trust that it will lead you to a place of greater authenticity and empowerment.
The Power of Perseverance
The journey from breakdown to breakthrough is not linear or straightforward but incredibly rewarding. Each step brings you closer to your true self, no matter how painful. As you navigate this path, hold on to your faith, seek support, and trust the process. Your breakthrough is not just possible but inevitable as long as you persevere.
In Chapter 10 of “Struck by Lightning,” I share more about this transformative journey and the tools that helped me navigate it. I invite you to explore this chapter and reflect on your own experiences. Additionally, you can listen to Episode 10 of my podcast, “From the Shadow to the Light,” where I further discuss the importance of embracing the breakdown before the breakthrough. Remember, the breakdown is not a failure but a powerful catalyst for your breakthrough.
If you have sexual trauma that needs healing, schedule a complimentary one-hour Discovery call where I will share with you a 7-step path that will help you close the wounds you carry. You are NOT broken – you don’t need to be fixed. You’re wounded and need to be healed. I can help you with that.
Stay resilient, keep faith, and embrace your journey from the shadow to the light.
Embracing Discomfort: The Key to Unlocking Success
In our quest for personal and professional growth, we often encounter tasks we’d rather avoid. Whether it involves waking up before dawn for a morning jog, tackling a mountain of paperwork, or engaging in tough conversations at work, success demands that we step out of our comfort zones. Through my own journey—marked notably by nearly 24 years of sobriety—I’ve learned the invaluable lesson that embracing discomfort is not merely a necessity but a catalyst for profound transformation.
Understanding the Value of Discomfort
The path to achieving our greatest aspirations is often lined with tasks we dread. Early in my sobriety, I faced countless mornings where the last thing I wanted to do was attend an AA meeting. The idea of sharing my struggles or listening to others didn’t always seem appealing. Yet, each time I went, I left feeling a bit stronger, more connected, and incredibly grateful. This repeated action of stepping into discomfort taught me an essential truth: growth occurs outside our comfort zones.
It’s not just about building resilience; it’s about developing a profound mental toughness that comes from consistently facing and overcoming challenges. These are not merely hurdles but opportunities that forge our character and define our capabilities.
How to Embrace the Uncomfortable
The first step in effectively embracing discomfort is to reframe your mindset. Begin to view these daunting tasks as vital steps toward your ultimate goals, not as detours or unnecessary obstacles. This shift in perspective can dramatically change your approach and emotional response to challenges.
When facing particularly overwhelming tasks, breaking them down into smaller, more manageable steps can be incredibly helpful. This strategy reduces anxiety and builds a sense of achievement as each smaller goal is accomplished. For instance, instead of focusing on the entire process of writing a book, focus on writing a single chapter or even just a page.
Furthermore, establishing a reward system after you tackle these challenges can make the process more enjoyable. A small treat, a short break, or scheduling something you enjoy right after can motivate you.
Accountability is another key element. Sharing your intentions with someone else—a friend, a coach, or a mentor—can increase your commitment. It’s easier to back out on ourselves than it is to explain to someone else why we didn’t follow through.
Lastly, take time to reflect on your past successes and the difficult paths you’ve navigated to reach them. Remembering your achievements and the obstacles you’ve overcome can provide a significant motivational boost. For instance, every year, as I near June 6th, the anniversary of my sobriety, I reflect on the challenges and successes of the past year, which reminds me of the strength I’ve gained from each difficult decision and action. I’ve done this for the past 24 years in AA, which gave me an invaluable tool I use in all areas of my life.
Embracing the tasks we prefer to avoid isn’t just a strategy for achieving goals—it’s a transformative process that reshapes our character, enhances our capabilities, and deepens our inner strength. As someone who has lived through significant challenges, I can affirm that the rewards of embracing discomfort are profound and enduring. Let us step forward into these challenges, not with reluctance but with a spirit of determination, knowing that each step is not merely a move towards achieving our goals but a stride towards becoming the person we aspire to be.
If you’re struggling with where to start, schedule your complimentary one-hour Discovery call. We’ll put together a roadmap using my 7-step pathway to success.
From To-Do to Success: Harnessing Pareto’s Principle for Real Achievement
Feeling overwhelmed by an ever-growing to-do list is all too common, yet many of us struggle to make substantial progress in our personal and professional lives. This challenge prompted me to seek a more practical approach to managing my tasks, leading me to discover a game-changing strategy outlined in Gary Keller’s influential book, “The ONE Thing.” By applying Pareto’s 80/20 Principle, I’ve transformed my everyday to-dos into a streamlined Success List, focusing on actions that significantly drive my goals, particularly in developing my podcast, “From the Shadow to the Light,” based on my memoir, “Struck by Lightning: My Journey from the Shadow to the Light.”
Embrace the 80/20 Rule
The Pareto Principle posits that 80% of our results come from just 20% of our efforts. This insight suggests that if we can identify and prioritize the most substantial impact efforts, we can optimize our productivity and achieve more with less.
Crafting Your Success List
To apply this principle effectively, start by dividing your tasks into “Coulds” and “Shoulds.” “Coulds” are tasks that are nice to accomplish but not essential. “Shoulds” are those critical tasks that will have a meaningful impact on your success. Migrate your “Shoulds” to your Success List. This focused list should only include activities that align closely with your overarching goals and have the potential to produce significant outcomes.
Focusing on The ONE Thing
From your Success List, identify the ONE thing that, once completed, will make other tasks easier or even unnecessary. It meant dedicating myself to my podcast, “From the Shadow to the Light,” which is a pivotal extension of the themes and personal transformations I explore in my memoir. Each episode delves deep into the chapters of my life, offering listeners insights and reflections on overcoming adversity and finding personal enlightenment.
Invest Intensively in Your Key Task
Once you’ve identified your ONE thing, commit to investing 80% of your time and resources towards this endeavor. This concentrated effort ensures that your primary objective receives the attention it deserves, substantially increasing your chances of success.
Extend Your Impact
Alongside reshaping my workflow, I initiated a free e-book giveaway to engage with you, my audience, on a deeper level. My intention is to foster a safe community for healing. It opens the door for meaningful interactions and potential collaborations, such as interviews with individuals, such as yourself, who resonate with my work and message.
Turning your to-do list into a Success List is more than simply reorganizing tasks—it’s a strategic overhaul prioritizing your most impactful actions. By applying the 80/20 rule and focusing on The ONE Thing, you can transform how you approach work and life, leading to more significant achievements and a more straightforward path to success.
If you’re inspired by these ideas or connect with the journey I describe in my book, “Struck by Lightning: My Journey from the Shadow to the Light,” I invite you to schedule a Virtual Coffee Chat. Whether it’s exploring potential interviews for my podcast or discussing ways we can collaborate, I’m eager to hear how my story and strategies resonate with you.
Embrace this refined approach to productivity and start your journey from the shadow to the light, where you become empowered to step into your confidence and have peace of mind. You can ask me about creating your personal 7-Step Path to Success on the Coffee Chat or set up a complimentary one-hour Discovery Call, where together, we will design one for you.
Embracing Self-Compassion: A Key to Healing and Confidence
Self-compassion is one of the most powerful tools in our journey towards healing and self-confidence. Yet, it’s often a concept we overlook or underestimate.
In my journey towards healing and self-confidence, one of the most profound realizations I’ve had is the incredible power of self-compassion. It’s not just a concept I talk about with clients; it’s something I’ve intimately experienced and integrated into my life.
To me, self-compassion goes beyond simple self-care or positive affirmations. It’s about fundamentally changing how I relate to myself during both the good and challenging times. It’s about treating myself with the same kindness, understanding, and empathy that I would readily offer to a dear friend in times of struggle.
For years, I struggled with feelings of inadequacy and a harsh inner criticwho constantly berated me for any perceived mistake or shortcoming. It wasn’t until I began to explore the practice of self-compassion that I started to break free from this cycle of self-judgment.
The Importance of Self-Compassion: Research has shown that self-compassion is strongly linked to psychological well-being, resilience, and overall life satisfaction. By practicing self-compassion, we can cultivate inner peace, resilience, and self-assurance, essential qualities on the journey toward healing and self-confidence.
Practical Tips for Cultivating Self-Compassion:
Mindful Self-Compassion Meditation: Set aside a few minutes each day for a mindfulness meditation focused on self-compassion. Begin by bringing awareness to your breath, then gently repeat phrases such as “May I be kind to myself” or “May I forgive myself for any mistakes.” Allow yourself to feel the warmth and kindness of these words permeate your being.
Practice Self-Kindness: Notice when your inner critic arises and gently challenge it with self-kindness. Offer encouragement and understanding instead of criticizing yourself for perceived shortcomings or mistakes. Treat yourself with the same tenderness you would extend to a loved one.
Write a Self-Compassion Letter: Take some time to write a letter to yourself, expressing compassion and understanding for any pain or struggles you’re experiencing. Acknowledge your humanity and offer words of comfort and encouragement. Reading this letter whenever you’re feeling down can be a powerful reminder of your inherent worth and resilience.
Cultivate Mindful Awareness: Practice tuning into your thoughts and emotions with mindful awareness,without judgment or criticism. Notice when self-critical thoughts arise and gently redirect your attention to the present moment. By cultivating this awareness, you can begin to untangle yourself from self-criticism and cultivate greater self-compassion.
Of course, cultivating self-compassion hasn’t always been easy. There are days when my inner criticrears its head, and I find myself slipping back into old patterns of self-judgment. But with practice and patience, I’ve learned to recognize these moments for what they are and respond to myself with greater kindness and understanding.
As I continue my journey towards greater self-compassion, I’m reminded of Brené Brown’s words, “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.” It’s a simple yet powerful reminder that I am worthy of love, kindness, and compassion.
Incorporating self-compassion into our lives is not always easy, but it is a practice that can profoundly transform our relationship with ourselves and others. Treating ourselves with kindness, understanding, and compassion can pave the way for healing, self-confidence, and a more profound sense of fulfillment. As you embark on your journey towards greater self-compassion, remember to be patient and gentle with yourself, for true healing begins from within. Know that you are worthy of love, kindness, and compassion precisely as you are.
Reflective Questions for You:
How do you currently relate to yourself during times of struggle or difficulty?
What self-compassion practices resonate most with you, and how can you incorporate them into your daily life?
What challenges do you anticipate as you cultivate greater self-compassion, and how can you navigate them with kindness and understanding?
Schedule a complimentary Discovery callto learn what’s keeping you from having self-compassion. Together, we’ll create a roadmap for your best next steps.
Shadow Work Carl Jung: Understanding Your Hidden Self for Transformation
Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung introduced the concept of shadow work, a powerful psychological process that helps individuals uncover and integrate the hidden aspects of their personality. These suppressed parts—our fears, insecurities, and traits we reject—are known as the shadow self.
Jung believed that ignoring the shadow self leads to self-sabotage, emotional repression, and unconscious behaviors that hold us back in life. By engaging in shadow work Carl Jung developed, we create an opportunity for deep self-awareness, healing, and transformation.
If you’ve ever felt triggered by someone, struggled with repeating patterns, or reacted in ways that surprised even yourself, your shadow is at play. The good news? You can work with it instead of against it.
What Is Shadow Work?
Shadow work meaning is the practice of acknowledging, understanding, and integrating your shadow self—the hidden emotions, behaviors, and fears that reside in your unconscious. These aspects often form in childhood when we are taught which emotions and traits are “acceptable” and which should be suppressed.
For example, if a child is frequently scolded for expressing anger, they may grow up believing that anger is “bad” and unconsciously repress it. However, that repressed anger doesn’t disappear—it manifests in passive-aggressiveness, self-sabotage, or unexplained frustration.
Jung’s shadow work theory teaches that by confronting these hidden aspects, we regain wholeness. Instead of allowing the shadow to control our behaviors unconsciously, we bring it into the light and use its lessons for growth.
Signs You Need Shadow Work
Shadow work is for anyone seeking personal growth, self-acceptance, and emotional balance. Some signs that shadow work may benefit you include:
Strong emotional triggers – Overreacting to certain people or situations
Self-sabotaging behavior – Avoiding success, struggling with imposter syndrome
Repetitive relationship patterns – Attracting the same toxic dynamics
Feelings of guilt or shame – Suppressing emotions or struggling with self-worth
Projecting onto others – Criticizing traits in others that you unconsciously possess
If you recognize any of these, it’s likely your shadow self is influencing your actions without your awareness. Shadow work helps bring these unconscious patterns into the light so you can take control of your emotions and behaviors.
Carl Jung’s Approach to Shadow Work
Jung’s shadow work theory emphasizes that self-awareness and integration are key to personal transformation. Here’s how Jungian shadow work is typically approached:
1. Acknowledge Your Shadow
The first step is recognizing your shadow self instead of denying or suppressing it. Shadow work requires deep self-reflection and the courage to face uncomfortable truths about yourself.
Ask yourself:
What traits in others do I strongly dislike?
When have I reacted in a way that surprised me?
Are there emotions I suppress because I was taught they were “bad”?
By answering these questions honestly, you start identifying hidden aspects of your shadow self.
2. Observe Emotional Triggers
Carl Jung emphasized that our triggers reveal what remains unhealed within us. If someone’s confidence irritates you, it could indicate repressed insecurity about your own worth.
Instead of immediately reacting, pause and observe your emotions. Ask yourself:
Why did this situation trigger me?
Is there an unresolved wound beneath my reaction?
What does this experience teach me about myself?
Learning from emotional reactions turns triggers into opportunities for growth.
3. Engage in Shadow Journaling
Journaling is one of the best ways to engage in shadow work Carl Jung advocated for. Writing down thoughts and emotions uncovers hidden fears and limiting beliefs.
Try these prompts:
What is a personality trait I suppress or feel ashamed of?
When have I blamed someone else for something I might also struggle with?
What emotions make me uncomfortable, and why?
Through shadow journaling, your unconscious mind becomes more accessible, making it easier to integrate and heal suppressed emotions.
4. Practice Self-Compassion
Shadow work isn’t about criticizing yourself—it’s about understanding yourself. Accepting that we all have a shadow self helps reduce judgment and fosters self-compassion.
Instead of thinking, “I shouldn’t feel jealous,” reframe it as:
“I acknowledge my jealousy and explore where it comes from.”
“This emotion is teaching me something about my desires and insecurities.”
Through self-compassion, you embrace your whole self—light and dark—without guilt or shame.
5. Seek Integration, Not Elimination
One of the biggest misconceptions about shadow work Carl Jung developed is that it’s about removing your shadow. However, Jung emphasized integration, not elimination.
Your shadow self isn’t something to get rid of—it’s something to understand. Within your shadow lie hidden strengths. For example:
Repressed anger can become assertiveness and boundary-setting.
Repressed fear can become caution and preparedness.
Repressed sadness can become depth and empathy.
The goal of shadow work isn’t to erase parts of yourself, but to embrace them in a healthy way.
The Benefits of Shadow Work
When you engage in shadow work Carl Jung introduced, you:
Improve self-awareness and emotional intelligence
Release limiting beliefs and past conditioning
Stop self-sabotage and unhealthy patterns
Cultivate stronger, healthier relationships
Unlock hidden strengths and creativity
Rather than allowing your shadow to control your actions, you regain power over your thoughts, emotions, and decisions.
Start Your Shadow Work Journey
Carl Jung believed that wholeness comes from integrating all parts of ourselves—both light and dark. By engaging in shadow work, you free yourself from the limitations of the unconscious mind and step into deeper self-awareness, confidence, and transformation.
If you’re ready to begin, Go Within Spiritual Coaching offers a 6-week online course, Say Hello to Your Shadow Fears, designed to:
Help you identify and embrace your shadow self
Transform limiting patterns into strengths
Heal emotional wounds and break self-sabotaging cycles
Cultivate self-compassion and authentic confidence
Your shadow holds the key to your deepest growth and empowerment. Are you ready to explore it?
