Step 1 for Everyday People: Acknowledging Powerlessness to Regain Control
It’s easy to get caught up in trying to control everything—whether it’s people, situations, or outcomes. But one of the most liberating realizations is that we are truly powerless over people, places, and things. For those familiar with recovery programs, this is the core of Step 1. However, this truth applies to everyone, regardless of their struggles. Recognizing our powerlessness doesn’t mean we’re weak—it’s the first step toward finding true freedom and serenity.
The Myth of Control
We often try to manage or fix the world around us, believing that if we work harder, speak louder, or plan better, we can change outcomes or people’s behaviors. But the truth is, we don’t have the power to control how people respond to us, what happens in the world, or even how life unfolds. The more we try, the more unmanageable our lives become.
- Reflection: Think about a time you tried to control someone or something, and it spiraled out of control. What did you learn from that experience?
Letting Go of People, Places, and Things
It’s common to believe that by controlling others or situations, we can shape the life we want. But how often has that led to frustration or burnout? Step 1 reminds us that we cannot change other people’s actions, the circumstances we face, or even the past. The more we cling to the need to control, the more chaotic life becomes.
- Reflection: Where in your life are you holding on too tightly? Are you trying to control your partner, children, job, or health?
Facing Unmanageability
Once we recognize our powerlessness, it’s natural to feel the discomfort of unmanageability. We might feel lost, confused, or even scared. But admitting that life is unmanageable doesn’t mean we give up. It’s the beginning of accepting reality as it is—and from there, we can start making more empowered choices based on what we can control: ourselves.
- Reflection: How does unmanageability show up in your life? What signs tell you that your efforts to control have led to chaos?
The Freedom in Surrender
Surrendering doesn’t mean giving up—it means releasing the false belief that we can control everything. We open ourselves to new possibilities by embracing powerlessness, including peace of mind and inner freedom. We focus on managing what we can control—our reactions, choices, and personal growth.
- Reflection: What areas of your life could benefit from surrender? Where can you let go to make room for more peace?
Step 1—acknowledging that we are powerless over people, places, and things and that life has become unmanageable—is not just for those in recovery. It’s a transformative realization for anyone struggling with the stresses of everyday life. Once we accept our limits, we can live more freely, focusing on the things within our control and finding serenity in the flow of life.
- Call to Action: If you’re ready to release the burden of control and step into a new way of being, take a moment to reflect on one thing you can let go of today, and then schedule your complimentary Discovery call to ensure that it is lasting.
