What Are Your Beliefs?
Do you believe you have what it takes to be successful, but don’t know why you’re not where you want to be? Have you tried different ways to change and always find yourself back where you started? Are you sabotaging yourself?
If you resonate with any of these questions, it could mean you have core beliefs that are holding you back.
What are core beliefs and how did I get them?
Core beliefs are beliefs you hold about yourself, other people, and the world you live in. Core beliefs can be indoctrinated by others, such as parents, teachers, siblings, etc., in the early stages of your life, or consciously chosen. You held some of these beliefs because they helped you to survive in a world where you were powerless. But perhaps today they no longer serve you, and in fact, are limiting you.
Take the belief, “I’m not smart enough.” It may be one that was indoctrinated by a teacher who once said that you’re stupid for not passing a spelling quiz. Or by a parent who told you that you’d never amount to anything. As you grew up, you looked for evidence to support that belief. Maybe you failed a class and you said, “See, I am dumb.” It reinforced your core belief.
As you grew older and made your way in the world, you valued success and felt successful, but every time you were at a critical point to achieve it, you sabotaged yourself. You couldn’t understand why. One reason may be this:
You never deleted, removed, or dis-created the belief, “I’m not smart enough.”
All you did was put new ones on top of it. You may have said, “I’m older and wiser now,” “I can achieve anything I put my mind to,” or “I am smart enough.” But the old core belief is still underneath. Just as you would pull up weeds and old flower roots before you planted a new garden, the same must be done with negative or limiting core beliefs—you must pull them out to make room for new empowering beliefs.
A few core beliefs are listed below. If you don’t feel you have any of these, you may have forgotten or repressed them. There’s a reason why you’re stuck and can’t move forward. My mission is to help you identify it and support you while you reconcile your past.
- I am not good enough.
- I am unlovable.
- I don’t deserve success.
- I am powerless.
- I have to work hard to get ahead.
- Everyone knows more than I do.
- I cannot be myself, or I’ll be rejected.
- People don’t listen to me.
- I’m not smart enough.
- Life is a struggle.
- I have to be perfect.
- I have to please others to be happy.
To discover your core beliefs, ask yourself what you believe about the following areas. Begin by saying, “What I believe about myself is …” Allow your stream of consciousness to lead you without any filtering. Do your best to keep pen to paper for whatever time you’ve chosen for each topic. I normally would say a minimum of thirty minutes for each, but you can choose the amount of time that is best for you.
- My health
- My body
- My relationships
- My work
- My financial situation
- My family
- My abilities
- My limitations
- My attitudes
This is only a partial list, but it will get you started to explore.
Beliefs form when you repeat behaviors over and over again. They are programmed into you and eventually become habits. Some of these habits were formed for very good reasons—at the time. The problem is they’ve become so ingrained, you are not consciously aware of them. If you want to end a bad habit, you need to uncover the core belief that is its cornerstone. It’s in your subconscious and you have to find and eliminate the belief, and then replace it with a better one.
This is done through the Clear Beliefs Process.
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