HOW TO SHINE YOUR INNER LIGHT IN DARK TIMES
Let’s face it; times are dark. You can sense the weight of the shadow hovering over you, doing its best to seduce you. The shadow has a power you can feel; it’s mysterious and alluring, and it reins you in as it softly calls you by name. It has millions of answers from which to choose.
And the light, well, you don’t feel the power of it as much. But light has only one answer, and that is the TRUTH.
As a seeker of truth, I know how challenging it can be to stand in the light when all you want to do is run and hide underneath that cloak of darkness. It is so much easier to say, “I’ve had it. I can’t do this anymore.” I know. I’ve done it. I’ve said those very words.
But I keep returning to my inner GPS, my soul, that tells me I cannot give in or give up, and that I’ve worked too hard to get where I am to throw it all away. The world needs lightkeepers to lead the way out of this dark abyss into which we’ve fallen. And to be a lightkeeper, I need to embrace and love my shadow, expressly, my anger before it turns to rage.
As a student of Caroline Myss’s Sacred Contracts Online Course, where you determine your archetypes and their light and shadow aspects, I have a foothold on what work is necessary. I need to revisit when, as the Wounded Child, I was asked to list three ways I expressed anger.
- I stuffed it, pushing it down and internalizing it. My first memory of doing this was when my younger brother died. I was six years old, and not only did I experience a great deal of grief, but I was also angry. My parents never showed this emotion, and I didn’t know what to do with it, thinking if I said something, I’d be punished. Loud voices scared me.
- I would start to cry because I didn’t know what to do with the feeling. I didn’t grow up in an environment where there was arguing or anger, so I believed that it must be bad. My parents never yelled or argued; if they did, I was never privy to it. I saw my mother cry – a lot. I was able to copy this behavior.
- From young adulthood on, I would explode like a ticking time-bomb. I never knew where this came from because my parents never modeled the behavior. It was when I heard Caroline at a seminar say, “The shadow of the Wounded Child comes out when they don’t get their way. They have a temper tantrum. It’s not personal, but until they realize and accept this, outbursts will always occur. Embracing this part of the archetype allows you to make the shadow your ally.”
I am identifying the areas where my anger arises. It is not hard to do considering the environment we are living in today. Once I’ve finished with that, I will allow the areas to be just as they are, and hold space for them so that they can be experienced safely – no road rage here! And finally, I will take that fire and use it to fuel my coaching business so I can be a conduit for healing.
What ways do you express anger? Have you identified triggers that set your anger off in an unhealthy way? If you are a woman, do you want to embrace that part of you that society says we shouldn’t show?
Look for my new Online Course, Shadow Work for Healing: How to Embrace and Love Your Dark Side, to come out soon. A free mini-course will be available by October 1, 2020.
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